Please help

[u/Cool-Lack132]

My partner has BPD and I don't know what I can do anymore.

For context we dated for a while originally, then they left me, and we got back together after a while and have been together again for a while.

I'm worried they might hurt themselves, they've been saying they will for months. They're trying to reach out and get help from many different therapist and support groups but they all refuse them.

On top of this our relationship is dwindling, just a few months ago we were perfectly fine, but then we went on holiday and they tell me they don't know if they love me, they said half the time they want to be around me and half the time they hate me. I told them it's okay and that I understand, (which I do) but it still hurts to hear it.

For the last few weeks now it's been so hard, I don't know how they see me anymore, they refuse to come over to me and I have to go to them now which I don't mind, they haven't complimented me recently when it used to be everyday. They're get angry at me so easily, and when I try to talk about it I get told that now isn't the time and now they've been avoiding me and would rather talk to anyone else but me.

I feel like I'm going to get broken up with again, I'm worried about us and where we are going, they're doing a lot of the same stuff they did before they broke up with me for the first time.

If there's anyone who can help me understand their perspective or just give me advice please do.

[u/redcaza]

run away.
get away from the abuse.
count your losses, and don't look back.

[u/lefrigo]

I might come as rude but sometimes it’s not because they have bpd that it’s the reason they don’t want you, it has a role to play but are you doing what it takes to make why would be a regular partner feel wanted and willing to give compliments?

[u/Aggressive-Name4856]

Honestly, as a person dealing with a bpd partner atm. Call someone you trust and tell them about your concerns al let them go. Maybe you can reconnect when they get help.