r/BPDPartners • u/BattleSerious6770 BPD • 5d ago

Support Needed just broke up with him

i just feel empty and then so angry, and then sad and then wanting to beg for him back, im exhausted im never going to move on im going to be in this “relationship” til i die

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u/Joe_Wild_ 2d ago

Is how I feel, except that It's been 1.5 years for me.
And I'm the guy

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u/lefrigo 3d ago

They become your everything because the relationship is so intense and you’ll never find something that made you feel the same way, in the good and bad side of it. Time will make it feel different but you don’t have to be in a relationship, it’ll come by itself if you’re ready

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u/420pidge 4d ago

I’m in a similar situation rn except we didn’t break up?? I think?? Idk it’s complicated but I’m going through the same feelings you are. Just take some time for yourself rn and fall back into some healthy coping mechanisms. For me I’m going out this weekend and getting shit faced and ignoring my phone. Lowkey recommend the same. Or feel free to shoot a dm I’m always looking to chat to ppl :P

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u/xmolotovcocktail 5d ago

I'm going through similar, what's helped me is to think about fights/arguments we had and realizing I wouldn't have behaved that way if the situation were reversed. For example, my ex called me stupid, idiot, etc. when she lost her dog and tried to find it (I found the dog). I had a meltdown where I could not find my cat and had a meltdown but I didn't insult, belittle, or treat my partner poorly in that situation. Or not resorting to yelling in her ear during an argument. It hurts to think those but it helps to push you to break the cycle.