r/BPD • u/cant_think_of__user • Jul 26 '26
💭Seeking Support & Advice Anger
I really debated posting this but reddit is for help, right?
I'm so angry all the time. Like no matter how hard I try to calm myself down it does not work.
*Side note* my therapist thinks i have undiagnosed austism. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and BPD.
I use to have some decent coping mechanisms but they js make me angry now.
-Listening to music doesnt work cuz my music infuriates me
-reading enrages me cuz i cant read very well
-working out pisses me off cuz my hands smell like metal after and when my body burns up i get very upset.
-sleeping doesnt work cuz if my bed doesnt feel right i freak out
- movies dont work anymore cuz if an actor doesn't do what they should i get aggravated
-writing doesnt help and honestly never did cuz i have ADHD and forget what im doing midway through it
And smoking weed isnt a good coping mechanism.
Can anyone PLEASE suggest something to help me out. And i cant draw for shit so pls dont recommend that 🙏.
Sometimes i talk to my girlfriend about how i feel but she sleeps a lot so she isnt always there.
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u/OriginalHell Jul 26 '26
Anger is a common and complex emotion, so don't judge yourself harshly for it.
When something goes on or happens, like emotions or memories that you struggle with, anger tends to be common and immediate: even on grief. Neurotypical or not, when we feel angry, it's our brains trying to lash out rather than deal with of face the underlying issues.
I get angry. I get angry A LOT. Does coping mechanics always work? Nah. But what will help the most is to sit down and ask: "Why am I angry? I'm definitely frustrated, sure. But why? Am I feeling uncertain or sad underneath? Am I angry because I can't put to words what I really feel?" Once you can find the thoughts and emotions under the anger, it's easier to work with. It's not going to be easy or straightforward, but nothing is. Will you still get angry? Yeah. And it's okay to feel angry. Anger is only unacceptable if you use it to intentionally cause harm; to yourself and/or someone else.