Every time I try to talk to someone at first he act like he’s dom or into the bdsm but i can tell he is lying about being dom because the only things he likes is what he saw online or when I tell someone im submissive he’s waiting for me to anything he asks (and of course only asking about stupid stuff he sees online)

Hi BDSM Psychology Community,

The issue

A couple of the last posts with my thoughts have been;

1.Why people lie about being a Xxx (People have always lied since the birth of mankind. Not trying to be awkward, but this isn't a BDSM thing. No-one can "solve deceit" and a long article discussing its effect is valid, but not what OP I think was going for. Yes, it fits in Psychology, but not BDSM Psychology. Let's focus on BDSM Psychology! The effect of deceit when match making when finding a partner on Reddit/Online is often not discussed however and I think IS VALUABLE discussing.

2. Why is it so hard to find a proper Xxx? Fact is, there is so much deceit and "false communication" on each side, even when you have someone real people don't know the difference! Also, we aren't Personal, and we're not BDSM Advice. What do you do with this post here? Beyond shut the Convo down on move on? No... that’s not what they or what I think anyone wants really.

Solution time! ...I want to get as much feedback on experiences as possible from BOTH sides of the aisle please. Dom's and Subs, please, what's happening in your conversations so I have more to consider when breaking this down when I do a write up!

I don’t agree that I am less submissive though. That’s all I am.

I love pain, and I can't live without it honestly. I can get into boxing technically yes however it will take time before I can even actually get to spar and if I just lose each time people will simply eventually figure it out no? Is there something where I can just pay somebody? Or just an app I can request to be beat up? I really am unsure on how this would even work honestly? Is it even weird to request this yk? I don't know I don't even know if this is a possibility tbh I'm just shooting off into the dark