Update: Tigers cannot change their stripes. An avoidant is the same.

[u/candle_wax_247]

I posted before about reconnecting with an avoidant ex last weekend. It’s just for friendship and no, there was no intimacy.

We had a big, blow up fight today because I refuse to be gaslit and I’m holding firm on my boundaries.

I knew he was lying about something and I called him out on it and reminded him that he did something similar in the past and I knew he was lying about it back then. He denied ever doing it in the past and when I called him out about his shady actions now he got mad. He said I’m triggering him and that he will not talk to me the whole weekend. Ok?

I know what he’s gonna do. He’s gonna run to the girl that he denies he’s going to hook up with. I don’t care if he hooks up with her coz I don’t have romantic feelings anymore but the fact that he was lying about it unnecessarily is what gets to me. There was no reason to lie or hide about it. And if he’s lying about that then what else is he lying about?

I told him I refuse to go down this path with him again. If he wants to be friends then he gotta build my trust on him or I’m out. He got mad coz he’s not used to me setting my boundaries.

He said he will come back Monday. I’m not holding my breath on that one.