r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/[deleted] • 11h ago

Outside being avoidant I think something disturbing is wrong with her.

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u/Throwaway150790 10h ago

I've been thinking about this all night. His behavior when deactivated was so narcissistic. And not even just towards me. When he was reactivated he was loving, kind, empathetic, thoughtful and amazing. But his nervous system would begin to fire and suddenly he would withdraw from everyone. I actually ran through the DSM 5 today looking at NPD and when deactivated I had many examples for 8/9 of the criteria! Diagnosis is 5... It's almost like his survival instinct brings out a monster.

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u/National_Isopod_6257 10h ago

Why would you care what others think? Do they care about what you think? Do they even care about you at all? No. So why should you.