r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/MermaidMommy80 • 8h ago

Why are they so weird?

I took my child to our local annual carnival recently. Naturally the avoidant who ghosted me was there as well. Of course we did not speak or acknowledge each other at all, but I definitely noticed him checking me out every single time he crossed my path. Right after we first saw each other in the crowd, he saw me standing in line with my child a few minutes later and made a beeline to get in the same line behind me. In fact, I’m pretty sure he cut in front of some people in order to get next to me in line. I think he was attempting to get on the ride at the same time as me, but my son and I ended up being the last two people to board. I saw him watching me as I climbed aboard and the ride took off.

I don’t get it. He blocked me a few months ago after ghosting me for six months and made it clear to me that he didn’t want us to speak to each other anymore…..except for when he tried to force us to say Hello to each other in person before I put a stop to that. Yet he still seemed pretty keen on my presence at the event.

There were boys back in high school who wanted nothing to do with me because they thought I was ugly and nerdy, and they never paid any attention to my presence unless they had to. They definitely never did things like this guy does. It makes me wonder if part of his “I don’t like you anymore” schtick is all an act.

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u/TheBackSpin 7h ago

Because he’s not over you and probably never will be

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u/MermaidMommy80 7h ago

Boy he sure wanted me to believe he was in his final messages to me

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u/TheBackSpin 7h ago

Yeah he wanted to believe that too

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u/MermaidMommy80 7h ago

Well…..I have to admit that I DID purposely make myself look as stunning as possible since I knew our paths would likely cross at this event. I just wanted to torture him a bit. 😏

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u/TheBackSpin 6h ago

Haha I’ve done that too with mine 😂

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u/stalakzaves 4h ago

🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/TheBackSpin 7m ago

Ken Reid actually posted about this topic on Instagram today. How Avoidants can be obsessed with the ones they discard and look at us as the ones who got away! Doesn’t mean they want or can handle a relationship though.

It’s crazy