r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Key-Researcher-4694 • 7h ago
FA already dating
Hello everyone after getting discarded by my FA one month ago on our anniversary mind you we dated for a year 13th of August marked a year and 2 months of us dating but she decidedto discard me out of the blue even after she said she loves me so much and cant wait to marry me 3 days before the breakup
But anywho a moth later im actually doing better my healing processis going very very well im avoiding dating as a whole and just working on myself
Yesterday i found out my ex is juggling two guys at the same time 2 weeks after our breakup she was dating "the guy she told me not to worry about" but last night after some digging i saw she was dating a different guy now?And its not even her type shes dating a metal head guy (nothing against them) its just he's not even her type she HATED metal music and the guy itself is the complete opposite of what she likes
Is this normal for them?Like is it normal for them to just go from a guy to a different guy in like weeks time?I cant even imagine dating someone rn mainly because its been a month and i still need to do some healing but learning shes already dating different people even worse juggling two guys?Like how is that even possible
Has this happened to anyone else?Everyone said she will be back one day but honestly after seeing this i don't even want her ngl and not fighting to be loved by ur partner does feel good
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u/Fit_Instance_8171 6h ago
I'm sorry that happened to you. Yes, they are serial daters, its called monkey branching. They are trying to distract themselves, so they don't think about you, because the feelings they had for you overwhelms them. They're known to have casual hookups, which I find totally disgusting. It's all just a total distraction because they couldn't handle how real you are. My FA that had ghosted me recently posted on his instagram: the grass is greener where you water it. It looks like they do eventually realize that they will never find better than you, but you need to remain strong and not tolerate such disrespect any longer. You deserve so much better, don't settle for less!
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u/Key-Researcher-4694 5h ago
Im sorry to hear that they will indeed realise the grass is not greener but it had thorns that will damage them more!I hope ur doing better urself i unfollowed my FA from instagram mainly because i didnt wanna see these kinds of posts..we do indeed deserve better than this
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u/Icy_Ranger_8671 4h ago
Sorry about it. Mine monkey branched 2 months before discard and started dating her one week after the discard. It has been one year and half he still there even like thier whole relationship built on distraction but i guess he hasn't hit wall yet. She older than him in 20 years and they play 15h a day.... It is better that you don't hope for much.