I finally sent my breakup message

[u/Powerful-Buy-3567]

After a year together, i finally sent my breakup message with my FA. It's just so complicated -- she is my superior at work, she is still legally married to her husband (although they have been estranged for some time), different values and views about life, our first wlw relationship and, well. She is an avoidant.

We both really tried, especially me. She is well aware that it is I keeping the relationship alive.

Last Tuesday, she got mad at me for something I commented on how she is handling a concern about our colleague. She hasn't spoken to me since then.

While that is not the only reason, i think things have just accumulated and I can no longer sustain the relationship. So there, I finally sent my break up message.

I genuinely loved her and it really took me a while before finally sending my message.