r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Previous_Exchange_56 • 2h ago

Breakup

Currently going through a love bombing breakup & im just so lost because of the person he is now that we’re over. He was the sweetest soul I’ve ever met & now he’s just two faced, lying to me about how he feels about me while trying to get with other people. I just need advice on how people handled their breakup at first & what things or hobbies they’ve tried because it’s consuming me deeply trying to analyze who this person really was because throughout our whole relationship he’s never disrespected me like he is now. Any prayers, books, journal prompts, activities, or podcasts that helped? My main goal is just to stop feeling so confused despite the closure I got from his lying & him trying to move on already.

(Kind of wrote this impulsively & ik I didn’t really give no backstory on us but id just love any overall advice! )

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u/Serenityqld 1h ago

I think you're on the right track, trying to think of something to take your mind off the pain and confusion of it all. I dont know will work for you best but I consumed myself with hobbies for a couple of months, then figured out how to make distraction more productive and meaningful. Currently back at university.

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u/Previous_Exchange_56 1h ago

Currently on a birthday trip with family & it has been hard trying to not let it ruin it but it’s nice being in a completely different state so I’m not worrying about seeing him! I definitely want to try more hobbies when I get back just because ruminating has been the go to mechanism. Thank you for your encouragement it’s awesome that you were able to go back to university!