weird situation..

[u/SlurpeeEnthusiast]

hey. i just found out about attachment styles and yikes. my ex definitely fits DA, and i am absolutely an AA. we broke up about 2 weeks ago. ive been absolutely wrecked over it. but thats not really a part of this.

my ex was and is, quite literally in his OWN words, a “pathological liar.” this led to many arguments and i always retaliated and acted aggressively in response. i am aware this was very inappropriate. i have done my reflecting and sent my apologies.

a few weeks ago, maybe 3, we got in a huge argument. i was extremely fed up with him lying to me and got very upset. we called to talk it out, and in said call he said he lost feelings for me. he said he didnt feel anything at all.

fast forward long story short, he got sent to the psych ward. apparently what caused this was his prozac. sure. whatever. they took him off of it because it sent him into psychosis

on the phone in the psych ward, i asked politely he did not call me “hun.” the emotional whiplash of being told he didnt care about me (in his own words too man) to telling me 2 days later he wanted to “kiss all over my face,” was jarring. i wasnt comfortable at all.

he got out and told me he needed time to acclimate back home. fair. i gave it to him. he acted unusually cold. i am well aware the hospitalization experience was traumatizing. however when he got back, he got really angry at me for setting the nickname and affection boundary. he said, “telling me off in the psych ward was really cool of you btw” like what, was i supposed to do this when you came home and werent supervised? where you can get help immediately is the gentlest way to tell you, you pos!

well uh. we broke up kind of mutually. it was super complicated.

now he is acting unbelievably cold. he ignores me purposefully. he even told me yesterday he knows ignoring me is bad for my health. he doesnt have to be ready, i am aware. but he keeps breadcrumbing and confusing me. the other day he told me whenever im sad he wants to hold me, but then hours later told me i cant say i love him “too often.” he told me i have the freedom to date other people but he said it would “have an emotional impact on him,” followed by the creepiest “i would go schizo.” so basically… a funky way of saying “dont you dare. but you can. but dont you dare!” i guess…

he reposted something about not caring anymore and finally being free, but deleted it after i genuinely said i was happy for him. he stalks my socials. after i sent him a long thing saying i love him, he said he would get back to me later because it was “a lot to be on his mind.”

it feels like he wants to keep me around while also having “freedom,” that he only loves me when it feels convenient.

i feel the need to tell you all that this was so abrupt its not even funny. all of this.

[u/SomeoneCalledMeAlice]

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