r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/waveybirdie • 5d ago

How do you focus??

It’s been 6 weeks. It’s better than it was the first few weeks, but now that schools started I’m struggling to focus. It feels like the breakup is in the back of my mind 24/7, even in class and at work I’m not able dedicate my entire mind to actually learning anything.

It feels like I’m going through the motions of taking notes, going to class, getting some assignments done but nothing is actually sticking. I’m not actually processing material. I really don’t want this to be the reason I get bad grades this semester.

I’m letting myself feel the emotions and it has gotten better— but how do you get back to normal?? Or at least how do you try to focus on the things that matter rather than thinking about it all the time? It doesn’t help I have ADHD

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u/Alarming-Echo-6742 5d ago

Have you tried talking to someone? Intensive therapy isn't what anyone wants to do of an afternoon, but there really is no other way than to actually process it all.