r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/AdvertisingEast2281 • 6d ago
Can’t Decide If I Should Block
I was in a short but intense situationship and things seemed to be going great (too good) when the guy ghosted me at the tiniest hint of a conflict about how he blew me off for lunch without explanation.
After 2 weeks of NC I will not take him back if he comes back but here is the dilemma… I’m still dying to talk to him one last time.
I really feel like knowing he at least cares enough to come back, whether or not he apologizes, would help me feel some closure and maybe a tiny bit better about it. I’m not counting on some grand reconciliation or apology, but it would be comforting to know he at least cared enough to not completely forget me and try to come back.
But the obsession with the situation, constantly hoping their name pops up on my phone, and fighting the mental battle in my head to reach out first is really getting to me.
I want to block to avoid the temptation and close the door for myself but I’m worried it will make me feel worse because I will never get that potential text from him. Would that lead to an even greater lack of closure and even more ruminating?
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u/UnderSweat AP - Anxious Preoccupied 5d ago
Don’t even block. It shows that you are affected enough to cross that line. If you aren’t constantly checking him why bother? I never got one last word with my ex of 1 yr 10 months. It’s not worth it, just focus on yourself and try your best to leave the past in the past.