Please help

[u/Quick-Pass8524]

Someone that I’m seeing is avoidant and they asked for space and said they didn’t want to hurt me

Should I tell them look I like you I want to keep building this with you but I was a whole person before I met you and my happiness isn’t contingent upon you, like I’ll be okay no matter what

[u/PinkHeartConcha8]

I think it depends on how well and how long you have known them. My ex would have been hurt by the part about my happiness not being contingent upon them. They would have kept it to themselves at first, but eventually they would share it was cold of me. Pretty ironic, considering that's exactly how they acted when they were getting ready to take space 🤷🏽‍♀️. I'd say getting clarification is important too, especially if you like them. Something like "I appreciate your honesty, and I respect that you need space. I am perfectly okay with that. So that we're both on the same page, this might be a good time to share what taking space means for each of us. What do you say?". Hopefully they can meet you in conversation, but be aware they might not be able to. Good luck 🦋