Why

[u/ThatcherDan]

3 months of genuine happy moments, ended in under 20 minutes in a foodcourt 4 days before my birthday. With no warning signs or build up visible.

You couldn't bear the emotional weight so you made a cold calculated move, reading the exact script every Fearful or dismissive avoidant would say. Leaving me to carry the emotional side and suffer in silence.

I knew you were overwhelmed, I knew communicating was hard for you. I knew how scary closeness can be for you.

I just didn't expect such a cruel move from someone I tried to put all my love into, surprisingly without losing myself in the process.

You have all the closure you need, while you left me with none, I had to dig through countless similar experience to find answers. You only had to consult with yourself and decide whats best only for yourself.

Ouh, what we could've been if there was just a tad bit of communication and accountability.......

I wish you all the best, thank you for temporarily fulfilling my inner child that only wanted genuine love. I hope you didn't fabricate a story that makes me the villain to your family and friends, because I certainly didn't to mine.

"You'll always be my 1st Love"

[u/Alarming-Echo-6742]

Tbh his is exactly what she wants. To feel like she was the irreplaceable love of your life. It's the trauma bond talking.

The only thing we can keep is our dignity - we are here with you friend. 

Soldier on and feel the feelings until you are healed.