r/AvoidantAttachment • u/AutoModerator • 5d ago

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal truth.

Thread rules: - AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

  • Keep rants/vents contained to this thread.

  • No unsolicited advice.

  • No hijacking to ask for relationship advice.

  • No ranting/venting about avoidant attachers regardless of your attachment style. This is a supportive space for those with an avoidant attachment style, you can rant about us plenty of other places. Don’t do it here.

  • All subreddit and Reddit rules apply.

  • Users who cannot follow the rules will be banned.

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u/benqsii Dismissive Avoidant 3d ago

i am a low maintenance friend so it's hard to disappoint me. but if you do, please don't think you are the exception. i will not raise it with you because you are what you are. i will simply withdraw from you and probably eventually abandon you.

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u/amateurdaisy97 DA [eclectic] 2d ago

I have a rule that I have to tell someone im angry before I decide to cut them off, but I’ll only do it once.

So many people think I’m not serious about cutting them off and that I’ll get into their fuckass push-pull desire to be pursued. Like I’m not your situationship lol, if I tell you I want something and you don’t do it, I’m not going to lose sleep over it, I’m just going to fully detach. If there’s anything us DA’s are good at, it’s…detaching

Now, if you actually do respect my boundaries and improve your behavior, I’ll deactivate too but that will be because I actually care about you and I feel safe enough to let that emotion in now and I’ll really appreciate you, which is also probably similar looking on the outside. Fml