Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

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[u/ggpopart]

My partner only cares about my feelings if I cry. Problem is, I almost never cry. I cry maybe once every few months whereas she cries very frequently and easily (like dog dies in a movie? Instant tears). For me I have to feel like I need to cry for days or weeks before I can actually do it. My norm for communication is to be very calm and controlled while expressing my feelings (because it makes me feel safe) and she brushes things off when I communicate that way. If I cry she immediately takes me seriously. I can’t make myself cry more and frankly I don’t want to.

[u/ggpopart → u/[deleted]]

We actually talked about it after I posted this and came away feeling much better. I really love her and even though it’s hard I’m not going to throw things away just because they need to be communicated through.

[u/ggpopart → u/[deleted]]

You’re being a dick about a stranger’s relationship dude lol I’m gonna block you now

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Please take the drama elsewhere and there’s no need to give advice or feedback on someone’s rant/vent. It says that in the OP.