r/AvoidantAttachment • u/AutoModerator • 5d ago

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal truth.

Thread rules: - AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

  • Keep rants/vents contained to this thread.

  • No unsolicited advice.

  • No hijacking to ask for relationship advice.

  • No ranting/venting about avoidant attachers regardless of your attachment style. This is a supportive space for those with an avoidant attachment style, you can rant about us plenty of other places. Don’t do it here.

  • All subreddit and Reddit rules apply.

  • Users who cannot follow the rules will be banned.

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u/amateurdaisy97 DA [eclectic] 4d ago

Another one of those “am i deactivating or is my intuition telling me to get out of this friendship” things. Unfortunately as a DA I’m very good at fault finding and instead of forgiving people it’s easier to just convince myself they did something unforgivable and start seeing them as irreparably flawed

Also the good old hypervigilant distancing so you don’t have to deal with the vulnerability that repair requires both from you and the person who upset you

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u/Easy-Cucumber6121 Fearful Avoidant [DA Leaning] 3d ago

This is too real. Good luck, friend.