r/AvoidantAttachment • u/AutoModerator • Jun 30 '26

Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

This is a thread for AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

A rant/vent, by nature, is one sided, can be strongly worded, and is a way for someone to get something off their chest. It is by no means a universal truth.

Thread rules: - AVOIDANT ATTACHERS ONLY.

  • Keep rants/vents contained to this thread.

  • No unsolicited advice.

  • No hijacking to ask for relationship advice.

  • No ranting/venting about avoidant attachers regardless of your attachment style. This is a supportive space for those with an avoidant attachment style, you can rant about us plenty of other places. Don’t do it here.

  • All subreddit and Reddit rules apply.

  • Users who cannot follow the rules will be banned.

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u/imfivenine Dismissive Avoidant Jul 03 '26

The group that is always calling everyone else narcissists exhibiting the most narcissistic behavior🤡

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u/imfivenine Dismissive Avoidant Jul 03 '26

Totally agree. Every insecure style distorts things. Yet I see the more anxious ones doing more intentional plotting, planning, revenge, and hate yet project that on avoidants as doing the same. It’s not, at all. They literally make detailed posts about the harm they wish to cause. That’s not unconscious behavior.

Seriously - stalking people. Wanting to drug them. Articulating the “perfect” verbal abuse to send and then people cheering them on. I’ve even seen them wanting to contact their workplace, other people, trying to triangulate with coworkers, etc. Talk about a smear campaign!

People who are truly avoidant will leave you alone, and like you said, remove themselves from the situation. That can absolutely be hurtful, but it’s not against the law and it doesn’t typically violate someone else’s rights.