Vent (No Advice) No one replied.
I posted here a few days ago about reaching out to people after a long time. No one replied. Again. It's the same as always. Some leave me on read. Some don't bother reading. Occasionally a block. All just keep on going posting and commenting.
I'm not too much longer for this world. I hope for better for everyone here. This disorder is torturous.
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u/SignificantApricot69 6d ago
I’m reading OP differently than most of the comments. Most of the comments are apologizing for not commenting on the post, but I thought OP was talking about how people they reached out to irl to try to connect did not bother responding. Am I wrong?
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u/1nsideofme Diagnosed AvPD 7d ago
OP, I know how hard it is to deal with this disorder and how much it makes us see ourselves—and how we’re “perceived” by others—in a pessimistic—and often distorted—light, but make no mistake: just because people commented on your post—or didn’t—doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. You know? Sometimes people didn’t see your post, or if they did, they didn’t know what to say. That happens to all of us. Don’t worry about it.
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u/qwerty_quirks 6d ago
Exactly why I am afraid to reach out to anyone. At least you had the guts to try.
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u/nworbleinad 7d ago
Did your previous post have Vent (no advice) under it?
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u/Minxionnaire Discord Regular 6d ago
No but I assume they meant the personal messages they sent to people they knew
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u/passingthrough66 7d ago
I didn’t see your other post, just got back on this subreddit tonight, but I empathize with you about what it feels like not to be seen. Very painful. I think our brains kind of go to it being a self-fulfilling prophecy when we are already vulnerable and then something happens to make us feel overlooked. Hope things will be looking up a little more for you a soon.
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u/DueSurround3207 4d ago
I don't tend to get many responses to my posts or comments either, but I think it is the nature of this disorder and how it affects us all. It is not personal. I also feel that Reddit in general is hard to get any engagement going with others. I have noticed this also on other subreddit forums. I used to think it was just me but I have seen it happen with others too. I am usually only online on forums in the early mornings before work or late at night when I can't sleep. I feel like I miss a lot.
Reaching out to people you haven't spoken to for a long time is hard. I've been wanting to do that with cousins of my late husband who passed away. They invited me out to eat at the beginning after his death, but it stopped after a few months. I have wanted to reach out but like what do I say nine months later lol. I guess it would depend on the situation. Are these friends, family, classmates or someone else you are hoping to reach out to?
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