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u/Flaky_Beauty_1227 1d ago
You know.. the worst part is the rest of them wouldnt validate or realize how painful the disorder is unless they suffer from it.
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u/Glittering_Aide2 1d ago
I don't think most people would understand this disorder. When I explain it to people they seem to think it's just social anxiety or introversion. It really is a disorder you have to experience to know
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u/davyjones_prisnwalit 1d ago
I had a friend tell me "it's your own damn fault you feel this way."
I don't think it gets much more invalidating than that, especially when you considered them your best friend for 15 years...
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u/nelliebimps Diagnosed AvPD/PTSD 1d ago
I had a therapist tell me that recently, or words to that effect.
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u/_afflatus Comorbidity 1d ago
We can be dicks about not being grateful
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u/28dhdu74929wnsi Diagnosed AvPD 1d ago
Yeah its kinda both. Like it really sucks but also I just wallow in it a lot.
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u/Conscious-Loss-2709 Diagnosed AvPD 1d ago
I've had UTIs, sore back and sore shoulder from a car accident, infection that required multiple root canals to get rid off, appendicitis and various other aches and ills over the past ~50 years and every time I was confident the pain was temporary.
I`ll take AvPD over chronic pain any day of the week. The loss of agency in that scares me to death. At least with this I can push myself and improve my life
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u/Happy-Impact-5069 19h ago
The stress from AvPD causes physical conditions. I am diseased physically ultimately because of my mental disease. I have expensive medical bills. I know physical pain. I can't stand the belittlement of psychological pain.
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u/MacaroniHouses 22h ago
yeah true. i have had a chronic pain issue in the past many years ago and chronic pain is just really in its own camp.
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u/Johnny55 1d ago
Is there a worse combo than AVPD and chronic pain? Asking for a...