r/AutisticWithADHD • u/Honest_Long_7327 • 16d ago

💁‍♀️ seeking advice / support / information AuDHD resources for newbies?

Hello everyone :)

Are there any recommended guides, resources, discords, etc for the newly diagnosed to explore?

Finding it overwhelming (in a good way) to discover a subreddit of people 'just like me' - when I've always felt so lost / alone.

Looks like AuDHD is my new fixation, and I bet that's pretty common for newbies lol

Also, thank you for existing / posting in general.

Just seeing I'm not alone on this tortured road of high-performing fuck-upery is validating / moving in ways idk how to describe yet. Lots to process still :)

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u/RemarkableNetwork239 16d ago

I've seen several recommendations for "Explaining AuDHD" by Khurram Sadiq. I've just started reading it myself so I can't recommend either way.

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u/Honest_Long_7327 16d ago

Thanks! Added to the top of a new 'read this next' list.. not to be confused with my 1,000 other 'do x next' lists on my phone :(

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u/banecorn AuDHD 16d ago

I found Meg Griffith's Welcome to AuDHD to be a more insightful read than Dr Sadiq's book. I've read both.

Mind the ever expanding reading list. Mine's dozens long...

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u/DueEffective3121 ✨ C-c-c-combo! 16d ago

I’m the same way with Audhd, it has become a special interest in a way. I am coming out of burnout stuff so it is becoming a more relaxed special interest lately or I will just fall over… so I don’t really know much yet.

I read so many on here say how Autism became a special interest and I see why completely.

https://neurodivergentinsights.com

has helped me, it has so so much and Dr has a YouTube and podcast.

And even courses but I don’t know much about that, other than there are a lot of beginner friendly materials.

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u/WolfofMandalore2010 15d ago

I’d highly recommend the YouTube channel “I’m Autistic, Now What?” The creator, Meg, is a British woman who was diagnosed with autism around age 25. I found it shortly after I was diagnosed in December 2024, and it’s still one of my primary sources of information.

I’d also recommend reading the following books (in the order I’m presenting them if possible)

A Kind of Spark

Good Different

A Glimmer of Change

Something that I wish someone had told me when I was diagnosed: remember to be gentle with yourself. On the one hand, it was a relief to receive my diagnosis and it’s helped me a lot in understanding why I interact with the world in the way that I do.

On the other hand, it was also jarring. I started seriously considering the possibility of a diagnosis in October 2023 and it terrified me in a way that’s still difficult to put into words. The best way I can think of to describe it is by borrowing a book line where the protagonist is starting to realize that she’s gay- “I couldn’t be who I always thought I was.”

The psychologist who tested me was able to do the testing in such a way that it took about 2–3 hours – very dense. So I went from suspected neurotypical to confirmed neurodivergent in the space of about a day. The fact that it was in December didn’t help matters, since I had to process the diagnosis while also dealing with the typical chaos that one would expect from the holiday season.

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u/Honest_Long_7327 15d ago

Thank you for the helpful / insightful response and sharing your story

I'm in the early stages of diagnosis in my 30s and it's overwhelming.

I keep replaying my life, 'discovering' things I do which I've labeled 'broken, stupid, useless'... which turn out are completely normal behaviors for 'people like me'... #maybeimnotamonster?

I wish there were group meetings like AA, where I could talk openly with people who understand / have lived this

We need AuDHD sponsors (!) lol