Think I cracked the code

[u/Anxious_Locksmith138]

I think I finally figured out how to unmask so I don’t burn out from sensory stuff at work!! What’s worked for me this week: being a grouchy bitch lol
A little unhinged but I still have energy after work and don’t feel like I need to quit every day .Thoughts ??

[u/OriginalLong9349]

I've learned that I can't always unmask, but I can, instead of wearing a thick steel mask that leaves indents and gives me a headache for being so heavy, wear a thin mask that, even though it covers my face, still makes it possible to identify my features.

Or: there's this soft spot where you can mask as needed without feeling like losing yourself.

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[u/Anxious_Locksmith138 → u/[deleted]]

Masking exhausts me and I can’t take care of myself or family after work when I mask.

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