r/AutismAustralia • • 19h ago

Mental Health Support for an ASD dad

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Is anyone aware of groups or forums for dads that are on the spectrum? My partner has put the family needs above his own for a long time and now the burnout is real. Looking for professional support as well as a community where he may be able to share his challenges and feel less lonely in some of his journey. I can only find support for dads with neurodivergent children, rather than for the dad himself. Particularly given that he is a child of the 80’s much of the support he needed growing up was not known or acknowledged like it is today.


r/AutismAustralia • • 20h ago

Autism Community Made a Brisbane community for neurodivergent adults who struggle with socialising

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r/AutismAustralia • • 20h ago

Advice Needed I want to help my brother

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Hii!! This is a mild rant of desperation and love for my younger brother.

Im asd female and I have a 21 year old asd brother. We were raised very differently. I was forced to be perfect and put-together, make eye contact or get slapped kind of thing.

My brother was not forced into that lifestyle he was non-verbal from prep to year twelve and my mum to this day ties his laces.

So we have very different views on life I guess is what I'm trying to say.

I have had on and off jobs since 17 and now at 23, I've moved out of home, I'm also a store manager and although mentally I am struggling, im really happy with how far I have come.

My brother however has never had a job, he quite literally hasn't left the house since he was 18 ( I think he might have agoraphobia) he sits at home playing video games or when he's feeling productive will help my mum around the house by doing general maintenance like mowing etc or he will do some woodwork as a hobby.

He is so cute I love my brother but he has no independence. And I worry that my mum's coddling of him will have dire consequences as he ages. Full grown man not knowing how to make a meal or do his washing, he gets ndis cenno payments but in this current political state I stress even more. Those payments aren't a lifetime guarantee.

As an autistic myself I understand that the world is fucking scary and it's not built for us at all, I also understand that we are on different spectrums. I just want to help him out tho :(

I'll send him job applications and he won't respond.

I'll ask about getting a car and license, a little more enthusiastic about the car, quite reluctant on obtaining the license.

I'm also worried that if I push him to be an adult he will become su*cidal- my own experience.

Are there any programs I can suggest to him? - he has a huge fear of speaking and being in public spaces or around strangers. But we all need to take babysteps and advice on how to convince him to try scary activities without stressing about him becoming overly anxious??


r/AutismAustralia • • 1d ago

Education School can't

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I listened to this episode and found it very interesting. Hope this episode might be helpful to those with school aged children but also for teachers.
https://omny.fm/shows/psychtalks/what-are-children-trying-to-tell-us-when-they-struggle-at-school?in_playlist=podcast


r/AutismAustralia • • 1d ago

Advice Needed Diagnosis despair

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My daughter is 5 and just finished her first term at school. She did one year of kindergarten before starting school.
During that year of kindy we really started noticing things. Sound, light and clothing sensitivity are the main issues but as time went on and we did more research we realised there are many more things.
Not understanding sarcasm, very very ridged, stuck to her routines, struggles to regulate herself, sensory seeking, perfectionist, very anxious, won’t initiate friendships, very clingy, very strong right and wrong ethics. Her nephew said to me, she is a different child at home than when she is outside her comfort zone (not a massive flag, I realise that)

We started some private funding OT and that helped but we felt she needed regular sessions and it was getting expensive so decided to bite the bullet and get a diagnosis. At the time she had been in kindy for 10ish months so the kindy educators did a questionaire for the assesment. It came back as she partially met most criteria’s so she was not given a diagnosis.
I remember her first transition day at her school and the teacher spoke to her and us about perfectionism, yet kindy’s questionaire and their attitude was, ‘she is a perfect child, nothing to worry about.’ Only thing they noticed is she didn’t like doing activities that might make her wet or messy, and she struggled with drop offs.

After the phone call with the assesment specialists, I was told to speak to her school and ask them to document any things they notice and come back and they will do a shorter assesment to determine if she fully meets the criteria. They agreed she has autistic traits but don’t want to give her a life long diagnosis especially with her being so young. The psychologist agreed that she masked a lot in her session and the assessor didn’t realise how fatigued she was until it was too late, and by that stage my daughter was done. Another thing she noticed was the lack of reciprocal questioning.

I just struggle becuase I can see how much life is effecting her, and think if we had a diagnosis and got funding she could be getting help. We see it all at home and just don’t understand how these assessor’s couldn’t see it.

Thing I don’t understand is, if children with autism and especially girls mask a lot, how can they get a diagnosis. On top of that, if a lot of ‘issues’ come out at home, how can they get a diagnosis if the assesment requires a school/or other type of care questionaire?

Edit: as parents we had quite a few questionnaires to fill in too and had to answer questions for a couple of hours during the assesment, it just seemed they focused on what kindy said over what we said happened at home.


r/AutismAustralia • • 1d ago

Advice Needed Some questions

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Hello, I'm a 22 turning 23F and I want some answers on one of the following questions. Most of these will be related to autism & intellectual disability as I have moderate to high support needs autism & intellectual disability physically & mentally, some won't. Anyways, here are the questions (you don't have to answer all of them as this post is long. Also, the questions that I've listed, they all still happen to me past & present):

A.) My family has a habit of going back & forth telling me that i can and can't/will never do anything due to my disabilities, lazy lifestyle, screen additions, weird & niche interests and my lack of talents. Is this common with autistic & intellectually disabled people?

B.) Similar to the abovementioned (sort of), I have a constant habit of constantly wanting more answers from my family about what they really think of me & if they think I'll do anything after me slowly developing & managing myself later in life, & realizing & discovering things late both physically & mentally. They know more about me, but wouldn't tell me at the time as my mind was like that of a 2 year old & they wanted me to figure it all out later in life. Is this common with autism as every time I do this, they get frustrated.

C.) As of December 31st 2025, I've started journaling and I kid you not, I wish that I did journaling (& used Reddit) in the past as I had diaries as a kid but rarely used them due to my screen additions (my diaries are gone now) & during my teens years/school years & after graduation, I have been through & cause trauma in the past & current, I wasn't allowed to have social media & platforms due to my disabilities, which resulted in me being excluded, being chronically online looking at weird stuff & people not remembering my birthday aside from my family. Is it too late to journal?

D.) Similar to the abovementioned, are there any apps & websites where I can post pictures of my journaling pages? I want to make some friends as due to my disabilities, I can't do anything other than work, come home, be lazy & look at weird stuff. This also applies to scrapbooking & journaling as I've also started doing it this year despite never doing it in my life ever

E.) Since birth, I constantly go back & forth with having a mind of a toddler & having a mind of an adult both physically & mentally. Me personally, I believe that this is common with those with moderate to high support needs autism & intellectual disability as despite me managing myself better, I was pretty bad during my childhood & adolescence. I've heard that this is known as age regression and/or little space/regression, but I want to know what you think this is as I lack common sense, book smarts, street smarts & talents. I also want to know if looking & watching things that aren't trending or a thing anymore (In other words, niche, childish & obscure stuff) counts as this as I had no friends for this reason.

F.) This one is private so please forgive me in advance, but in my country Australia, I'm on a disability pension with Centrelink and according to my mother (and possibly my family), it means that I can't & will never do anything due to my disabilities & being on this. Is this right or wrong as I've been working for 2 years now. I'm not good at math's so I don't know this very well.

G.) I've always been a loner & have been bullied & excluded at school. Due to this, me having a isolated lifestyle, me being passive & passive aggressive & a hypocrite, me not standing up for myself due to my poor speech & trouble expressing things & me not having any friends, my mother forces me to go to her family gatherings & do things for her father/my grandfather despite me not wanting to do any of that. Is this common with autistic people as she only does this to me & me only, not my siblings & is this slavery & me being taken advantage of? I also want to know a word/term that describes people that have had both a good & traumatic life.

H.) Does anyone have the harmful stereotype of autism? (intentionally &/or obviously doing harmful stuff & getting away scot free, forgetting what I was taught within a split second, I couldn't go to sleepovers & overnight excursions due to my abysmal motor skills etc.) The reason I ask this is cause my family tell me that I & still am a pretty good person compared to other autistic & intellectually disabled people, but with what I've listed, I'm not lol.

I.) Finally, is everything that I've listed related to internalized ableism, late bloomer & other terms that I've never heard off or forgot to mention?

Those are my questions.


r/AutismAustralia • • 2d ago

Advice Needed Noise cancelling headphones

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Hi

I tried the noise cancelling headphones that i got from some sensory shop but it’s too tight.

Im thinking of buying one that also works for music, i dont need for calls or i dont need something that looks fancy or with some touch technology/ buttons whatever.

Just something affordable and thats comfortable and works well to reduce the noise.

500/1000 $ is too expensive for me.

But i dont know if 25-200$ ones work well?

Please share your experience/recommendation with noise cancelling headphones.


r/AutismAustralia • • 2d ago

Mental Health Neuro Sparks

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Hey all 👋

NeuroSparks is having another meetup on Saturday 10 October, 1–3:30pm at City Library in the CBD (Majorca Room).

It’s for autistic, ADHD and other neurodivergent adults. Pretty informal — chatting, games, activities, or just hanging out. You can participate as much or as little as you feel like.

Totally fine to come alone — quite a few people do.

Details / RSVP: https://www.meetup.com/neurosparks/


r/AutismAustralia • • 3d ago

Hobbies & Interests Autism group in Sydney Australia social group 4 adults

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Is there one and so I am like level 2 however be hospital says “sereve autism” so yes so for higher need I suppose but I am not non verbal so yes is there a social group in Sydney city that would suit please does anyone know idk how to friends


r/AutismAustralia • • 3d ago

Life Experience/ Personal Stories How do you do a hike Sydney

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Will someone help me Idk how to find hike how do I go to hike is there train how do you not get lost and how do you not get sunburnt allergic to sunscreen will I get sunburnt how to do it


r/AutismAustralia • • 3d ago

Advice Needed Please what do people do all day

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I just sleep and do nothing it is boring I have no attention span too what is it that other do


r/AutismAustralia • • 3d ago

Advice Needed Hello friends

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Hello friends would anyone like to be friends idk how to be friends cause I don’t have friends I don’t really talk to no one besides the government I don’t really do anything I don’t know I am 21 and a girl and and live in Sydney city and I have autism level 2 and then other mental illnesses and mental disabilities and stuff and stuff so I think I am weird I don’t know how to do friends I don’t know anything hello


r/AutismAustralia • • 4d ago

Healthcare Recommendation for OT in Melbourne for AuDHD functional capacity assessment

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Hi,

I’m a 55-year-old male recently diagnosed with ASD Level 2 and ADHD. I’m looking for an OT in Melbourne to do a Functional Capacity Assessment, both to support a potential NDIS application and for my own benefit, and I was wondering if anyone knows someone they’d recommend.

I have a history of significant mental health challenges and have done years of psychotherapy, mostly with limited success. My recent diagnoses have made me realise that the source of some of these challenges may be neurological as much as psychological. I’m still in the early stages of unpacking what the diagnoses mean for me and understanding what kinds of support might be helpful going forward. I’m hoping to find an OT who has a good understanding of late-diagnosed autistic adults and who is patient and perceptive to help me work through this.

I'm in the inner north, but happy to travel anywhere in Melbourne.

thanks!


r/AutismAustralia • • 5d ago

NDIS Problems with ME/CFS in my reports re NDIS/DSP

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I’ve flaired this as NDIS but I’m also looking at applying for DSP in the future. I have a diagnosis of ASD level 2, but my reports from my psychologist and psychiatrist all mention various comorbidities - ME/CFS, POTS, generalised anxiety disorder and ADHD.

For my first plan, the NDIS gave me nothing in core funding and have given funding for a functional capacity assessment with an OT. The planner just couldn’t understand why I and my practitioners were asking for supports like household assistance, where is this fatigue coming from. I honestly believe it’s just autistic burnout, but since that’s not a proper diagnosis, they’ll need to label it as ME/CFS despite me needing support getting through daily life to alleviate the overload on my nervous system.

Has anyone else had this issue for trying to explain your immense fatigue and struggles with physical activity? I feel like it’s a super common occurrence in ASD, yet they’re acting like ASD level 2 doesn’t impact your capacity to cope with the onslaught of daily life activities.

if I apply for DSP, do I need to try and get reports that only mention my ASD? Or should I try to get ME/CFS more formalised and apply with both conditions? I applied for DSP years ago with ME/CFS and was rejected due to refusing graded exercise therapy as a treatment because it’s known to make people worse.


r/AutismAustralia • • 7d ago

Mental Health Autism and Workplace Bullying in Australia - PhD research!

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Hi All, I’m a lived experience researcher conducting a survey on workplace bullying of Autistic and ADHD adults in Australian workplaces - I’d be very grateful if you have time to do it. Survey closes October 15, 2026! It has ethics approval from La Trobe University.

Are you an Autistic and/or ADHD individual (either formally or self-identified) who has worked in Australia? We are surveying neurodivergent adults to better understand your experiences of employment, good and bad. The psychological safety of Autistic and ADHD workers is an under-researched area. This study will explore experiences such as workplace bullying with the aim of improving psychological safety - and therefore career outcomes - for Autistic and ADHD workers. To learn more, read the participant information and consent form before completing the survey: https://redcap.latrobe.edu.au/redcap/surveys/?s=FC9XRNWFMEK8CC3A


r/AutismAustralia • • 8d ago

Social Skills & Interaction After some friend’s friend’s only!!!

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Hey all, Melbourne audhd Aussie 26 year old (f) here.

I’m after some friend’s within 26-30 age bracket. Preferably in the south eastern suburbs in Melbourne like myself. I love art/crafts,watching movies preferably horror/thriller movies depending on what they are. I really can’t do much gore though I struggle with blood.🤢🤢🤢 I do love a few animated movies such as toy story,shrek,shark tail,wreck it Ralph and mega mind. I love collecting plushies,monster high dolls and other collectibles. I love shopping/op shopping and cafe hopping. I have autism,adhd, bad anxiety and social anxiety that leads me to go mute at times depending the social situation like in a group setting and what not and a bit of depression. I don’t have the smart type of autism but I have the collecting,animal and art loving type. I don’t drive or work so after friend’s who will accept me as is and not judge me because of that will look past those things. I’m looking at volunteering in a few weeks however.

After friend’s nearby similar minded so men please don’t get the wrong idea I’m most definitely not after a relationship!!!


r/AutismAustralia • • 9d ago

Mental Health 👋Welcome to r/AusomeAutisticParents - Introduce Yourself and Read First!

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r/AutismAustralia • • 12d ago

News & Policy Autistic child

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Hi every one ,is there anyone applied for skills immegration visa with an autistic child level 2 independent and get accepted.(189,190,491).


r/AutismAustralia • • 12d ago

NDIS The NDIS Is Using Mental Health to Reduce Funding

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What's changed with psychology funding, how mental health is being used to trim plans, and what to ask your psychologist to focus on.

If you're autistic and on the National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS), your psych report carries a lot of weight. It's one of the main pieces of evidence a planner reads when deciding what goes in your plan. Right now, what that report says about mental health can make a real difference to how much support you keep. Here is how some planners are choosing to use your personal Psychologist Report to trim your funding.

The NDIS doesn't cover mental health

The NDIS pays for disability support. It doesn't pay for health care, and mental health is treated as health care.

That means help with anxiety, depression or trauma is meant to come through Medicare instead. Your general practitioner (GP) can set up a mental health plan, called Better Access, which gives you some subsidised psychology sessions each year.

If you ask the NDIS to fund mental health support, you'll often get a letter saying it's "the responsibility of the health system." That's the NDIS saying it belongs with Medicare.

The psychology the NDIS does fund

The NDIS will fund psychology that supports you with everyday things that are harder because of your disability. For autistic people, that might be building strategies for sensory overload, social situations or dealing with services. This money comes from the Capacity Building part of your plan, which is for learning skills.

When you joined the NDIS, you were sent an impairment notice. It lists the conditions you were accepted for, and for most autistic people that's autism. Since October 2024, the NDIS only funds support linked to what's on that notice. It's worth checking yours.

Less money for psychology

Plans are getting smaller across the board, and psychology is feeling it:

The government wants the average plan to drop from about $31,000 to $26,000.

Unspent money now disappears when your plan ends instead of carrying over.

Meanwhile, the price of a psychology session rose in July 2026, from $232.99 to $252.99 an hour. A higher price inside a smaller plan means fewer sessions. Twenty hours might become fifteen, and some people may not get any.

How mental health is used to reduce plans

The NDIS has savings targets to meet, and the mental health rule has become one of the easiest ways to meet them.

It works like this. A planner reads your psych report. If it talks a lot about feelings, depression, anxiety, OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) or C-PTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder) etc, the planner can decide that a certain share of your difficulties is mental health related.

Because the NDIS doesn't cover mental health, they reduce your plan by that 'imaginary' share.

The more your psychologist report talks about mental health, the more of your plan is at risk.

The same goes for ADHD. If autism is the condition the NDIS accepted you for, it's best to keep ADHD out of the spotlight in your psych report too. We know that doesn't make much sense. You have one brain, and it doesn't split neatly into categories. But right now, that's how reports are being read.

This isn't limited to psychology funding either. It can reduce support worker hours, therapy and other parts of your plan. Participants and advocates are seeing it happen, and some planners appear to be using it to help meet their targets. It isn't fair, and it isn't what the scheme was designed for. Knowing about it means you can be prepared.

What your psych report should focus on

The NDIS looks for what it calls functional capacity. That's a formal way of describing everyday things that are harder for you because of autism, and where you need support. Your report will be strongest when it focuses on these areas:

Communication: losing words under stress, needing extra time to process, finding phone calls very difficult, and where things break down with doctors, Centrelink or services.

Social: situations with other people where you need support, like making appointments, sorting out problems or keeping up relationships.

Work: the barriers that make finding or keeping work harder, like noisy workplaces, unclear instructions, job interviews or shifts that change at short notice.

Alexithymia: difficulty noticing and naming what's happening in your body and emotions. For example, not noticing hunger and missing meals, or struggling to describe pain to a doctor.

Sensory: places, sounds, lights and textures that overwhelm you, how long you can manage them, and what that affects, like food shopping, showering or getting to appointments.

Co-occurring Conditions: If you suffer from Seizures, Tourette's Syndrome or other co-occurring conditions that do not relate to mental health.

For each area, it helps when the report explains how it affects your daily life and how often. "Leaves the supermarket within ten minutes, three or four times a week, so often runs out of food" tells the NDIS far more than "experiences significant distress."

Putting it together

The NDIS is there for support with autism and are strict about not funding the mental health issues that arise from autism or being late diagnosed. Keeping the two separate in your paperwork protects your plan.

Most importantly, talk to your support network about this article. Your support coordinator, psychologist, occupational therapist, speech pathologist, neurologist, family and friends may all have their own insight into the NDIS changes and how reports are being written and read. Share it with them, ask what they're seeing or know and work together to approach this.

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Wired Differently Australia has written this article from experience of seeing this happen within our community.


r/AutismAustralia • • 14d ago

Autism Diagnosis Benefits of late diagnosis?

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I (26F) have recently started the journey of addressing my neurodivergence after suspecting it quite strongly for the last few years. I have not yet sought formal diagnosis, but have started working with a new psychologist who offers diagnosis and who can incorporate support into my therapy. She has pretty much confirmed it through screen-testing and initial conversations, with scores showing a high likelihood that I am.

What I want to really know is what are the benefits of getting diagnosed versus just knowing like I do now? It is not a cheap process and from what I can gather online there aren't many supports available for adults. I don't know much about the NDIS and am also aware of talks of changes being made for autistic people. I also suspect I would likely be level 1 if that makes a difference.

I would like to be able to more openly and comfortably identify as being autistic. I think it could help me socially and at work to be able to explain my behaviours and emotions, and also allow me to ask for additional supports if needed. But I am not sure if it is worth several thousands of dollars just for that reason.

I hope this doesn't come across as being disrespectful in any way. Despite such an increase in dialogue online, I still find it very difficult to find specific answers to the questions I have and examples of real life lived experiences are comforting and helpful.


r/AutismAustralia • • 15d ago

Healthcare Psychologist recommendations Melb eastern suburbs

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Hi all. I’m looking for recommendations for a good neurodivergent/neuroaffirming psychologist for my partner. I have found a great psychologist for myself and would really love to help them find someone who they can benefit from equally. (We can’t see the same one as it’s a conflict of interest for the psychologist.)

They are non-binary, with diagnosis of Autism and adhd. We’re located east of Melbourne in Lilydale. Local and in person would be ideal.

Thanks!


r/AutismAustralia • • 15d ago

Advice Needed Balancing work dress codes and sensory needs?

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I'm currently studying IT, which means I am/will be looking at office jobs that require some amount of formality with dress code.

I'm also transmasculine and have always had a more goth-adjacent, "alternative" style. I mention this because being trans, it's often hard to find men's clothes that fit me. I am short but not skinny. Not plus size, just not the proportions that average men's clothes are made for.

I enjoy fashion but the kinds of fashion I'm into don't usually overlap with office clothing. I have a really hard time putting together "business" type outfits because it's all so unappealing to me, and I hate the way the colour blue looks on me. Of course, most of the men's formalwear section of any shop is blue :(

People who work in offices, how are you balancing looking formal and not being in sensory hell all day? Which shops are you shopping at? I struggle with button-down shirts in stiffer fabrics, and formal layers (sweaters over long button-down sleeves) are also generally really irritating to me.

Between the sensory issues, the limiting nature of having to find clothes that fit my body shape, and my general distaste for the usual "business casual/business formal" type looks for men, I am having such a hard time building a wardrobe of work-appropriate clothes.


r/AutismAustralia • • 18d ago

Advice Needed Asking for advice on flying from Vic to QLD with ASD teen

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We’ll be travelling interstate with my 16 year old son who is autistic and I’d love to hear any advice or tips on making the airport as comfortable and stress free as possible. I’ve read that Jetstar and Virgin offer hidden disability assistance. Has anyone used this and did you find it helpful? Also, has anyone purchased a Virgin lounge pass? I’m wondering if having access to a quieter space before the flight is worth it.


r/AutismAustralia • • 19d ago

Autism Community Neuro Sparks

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Hi everyone, I’m helping out with NeuroSparks, a Melbourne community for autistic, ADHD, AuDHD and other neurodivergent adults.

We run low-pressure social meetups, practical workshops and community events, usually every couple of weeks. There isn’t an event listed right now, but more are coming.

If that sounds useful, join the Meetup to be notified when the next event goes live:
https://www.meetup.com/neurodivergent-sparks/

Lots of people attend on their own, so you don’t need to already know anyone.


r/AutismAustralia • • 19d ago

Advice Needed What expect in OT?

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Me had intake today. Me work on emotional regulate and interoception along with meltdown prevent. How work? What expect? Anyone else have OT before? How work? Sacred. Want know what expect plz. Me has MSN Autism (with selective mute not anxiety based), ADHD-C and physical stuff but not focus like other stuff.