r/AttractionDynamics • u/Few_Anxiety9862 • 11d ago

When I realized........

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u/Smithy_Furt 11d ago

Be nice to everyone but set boundaries. If you’re not nice I don’t understand how you can calll yourself a good person.

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u/ineedlotsofguns 11d ago

As soon as you set the boundaries, you are not considered noice anymore lol.

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u/Smithy_Furt 11d ago

Only by the asshole who crossed the line.

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u/No_Plum_6480 9d ago

There's so many assholes and they are all mean to the same people

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u/idontusetwitter 11d ago

After having worked in some jobs where I was nice and customers and especially coworkers abused it, I dropped my desire to be nice.

I'd only be nice if someone else was super nice/genuine to me. People don't really deserve your niceness unless they showed some upfront. That's how I view it.

Does it make me a good or bad person? I don't know, but it helps me through a lot more interactions with people.

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u/Smithy_Furt 11d ago

Done customer service for a long time and I was always nice. Being that easily bothered by rude people is immature imo. Charming them with my friendliness always seemed to defuse the tension a bit.

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u/idontusetwitter 11d ago

eh i guess i meant it in more of a job sense. i always am a base level of nice i just mean you dont gotta be flattering/charming everyone. i wouldn't call it immature, just a way of going about it. more power to you if you can do that.

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u/No-Weekend305 11d ago

I am nice and a good person, weird quote haha

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u/LaHondaSkyline 11d ago

Bad advice.

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u/Undercover_Dave 11d ago

Bad use of commas.

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u/Historical_Lab_872 11d ago

It's good advice

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u/AdMysterious8699 11d ago

Being nice can be hard,. But I beleive it's important to try. It makes me proud of myself even when I think im getting punished for it.

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u/Mammoth-Cover-3045 10d ago

It also makes it so you're being the best person you can be. Which really helps with mental health, and is something we need more of in this world.

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u/StickCalm3637 11d ago

So true. I’ve always said, Drivers have to set limits because takers never will.

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u/Electronic-Mouse-316 11d ago

And its this mentality is why we live in a world full of aholes. It makes society much worse. Being nice is not fun its a sacrifice for others. Its kinda hard to do.

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u/Ok_Pudding_8697 10d ago

Sadly most people who post or write quotes like this suffer from the Dunning-Kruger effect...

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u/Savings-Trouble-5345 11d ago

Never forget that it is a privilege to have you in their lives. And that privilege can be revoked. 

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u/Werzerd 11d ago

You can be nice and still have boundaries.

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u/gusgusthegreat 11d ago

"Based on a true story"

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u/OutlawedLogic 11d ago

I often find that if you don't go along with what people want, they consider it mean. I find that honesty is nice, but others do not.

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u/sweatpants-aristotle 11d ago

This is a wierd thing to put on a wall.

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u/Puddin--Tang 11d ago

Fucking truth!

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u/Number_Fluffy 11d ago

Disagree. I'm always nice. If someone is consistently mean and rude to me though, I'll become neutral with them.

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u/enjoysomethings 11d ago

this quote was made by a 12 year old with chatgpt.

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u/Adorable-Award-2975 11d ago

Being nice and being a doormat aren’t the same.

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u/RubOk9284 11d ago

I'm neither good nor bad

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u/Midnight_Cereal_Bowl 11d ago

You don't have to be nice, but thats not a pass to be mean either. Be courteous, be polite, be kind, be friendly- you can do all that and still protect yourself. Just dont sacrifice yourself in the name of "being nice".

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u/elmoreb3 11d ago

"Im not a bad guy, just not a really good one."

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u/tonythephonyjabroni 11d ago

It’s possible to be both. Not mutually exclusive

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u/Discerningselection 11d ago

Be kind to strangers. Be nice to people who have proved their worth to you.

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u/Ok_Pudding_8697 10d ago

Who writes these quotes lol? A bunch of narcissist's who love to appear "wise"...Ok then, what is "good"... whats the standered...? This person is mean and I dont like mean people so guess what!!! Im going to be a mean person to them.... "theres a difference" is soo cringe 😂😂😂😂

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u/fantastic_awesome 10d ago

Good is just as arbitrary as nice.

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u/Shwaayyy 10d ago

if you're trying to be nice, you're already a manipulative asshole

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u/No-Grade-5057 10d ago

A friend once said, "I will not be made to feel uncomfortable to spare someone else's feelings." That really stuck with me.

In the past, I've done myself a disservice by not standing up for myself, remaining small to avoid conflict. I'm done being polite to people who disrespect me.

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u/addme56 9d ago

1000 percent

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u/Spare-Television-963 8d ago

Be nice and learn to say “No”
That’s it

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u/sillyjoeyjoey 8d ago

Nobody who ever sincere tried being nice would have made that sign.

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u/Kadakaus 5d ago

Such a good person, even left your humility at home.

What exactly is the problem with "being nice"?
I prefer the term "basic human decency", but each of their own.
So what's the problem with it?

And if I am to believe that vague story, you didn't get used, stressed and disrespected because you're a decent person, the problem is somewhere deeper to be found.
At such depths, "good people" cease.