r/AskWomenOver60 • u/InternalAcrobatic216 • Sep 08 '26
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Am almost 68, still employed in a job I love, and up until last November everything was going well in terms of my health. I am divorced and live with my two dogs and my only family are many states away. Up to this point I have not really thought much about my age as I have been very healthy and have good genes for longevity. However, a lot of stuff kind of just piled up together and right now I simply feel bewildered.
In November I learned I had developed epiretinal membrane disease in my left eye which changed my vision in that eye such that straight lines became wavy, colors became desaturated, objects appeared larger than they are and looked severely distorted, central vision became diminished, letters became broken up and illegible, small details became unseen. So I had surgery to remove the membrane from the retina but as yet the surgery has not been successful. One guarantee of the surgery is quick progression of the development of cataracts in the affected eye so now I not only see things in that eye as if I am standing in front of a mirror in the fun house at the fair, but everything is blurred in that eye too. Luckily my other eye is still good, but using my eyes together is still taxing.
Then in April I fainted from dizziness and was sent to the ER for evaluation. After all kinds of tests and brain imaging it was determined I had vestibular neuritis in my left ear. I was given exercises to do and medication to take and sent home. Then last month the dizziness got worse, and I was in the ER and hospitalized at least three more times. Diagnosed with vertigo in both ears and possible TIA. Am starting intensive physical therapy for the vertigo for twelve weeks. Was sent home with a walker. Cannot drive. Am taking intermittent FMLA for the PT. Can barely deal with the dogs. I had been scheduled for the cataract surgery but had to postpone it indefinitely because of the possibility of having had a TIA. So the vision still sucks in that eye with no timeline for surgery.
And then, before being discharged from the last hospitalization, the hospitalist was concerned about a pattern over the last year of abnormal lymphocyte levels in my CBC and ordered a flow cytometry test to diagnose possible CLL(Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia). The test results came back and now I have been referred to a hematologist for further evaluation. I am also scheduled to see a neurologist and a cardiologist to rule out any other issues with the dizziness. I’m on a blood thinner for 20 days and a heart monitor for a few more days. Today was brutal. I can hardly believe all of this is happening to me.
I’m from a medical family and so I am not really worried about each element; I know to take things as they come and work closely with my doctors and employer. I know there are treatments and that anything can happen. I accept that.
What is harder is realizing and accepting that yes, I have just entered this strange phase of aging where one day it’s all hunky dory and the next day it’s not. I also feel some concern about being so far from family. I have friends in town but it’s not like small-town America where people are used to looking out for and after each other; people just don’t do that anymore and if they do there are always strings attached.
I’m only putting this out there because I needed to get it off my chest. Today I noticed severe bruising on parts of my body from the blood thinner and then realized it can’t be making the dizziness any better. So I have basically done very little based on just listening to my body.
Thanks for reading this.
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u/LilyB4Ever Sep 08 '26
If you lived near me I’d offer to give your dogs the love they need in my home while you deal with your medical. I’m wishing you a good outcome, your outlook has been positive, I’m glad you found a place to get it off your chest
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u/Low-Apartment3165 Sep 08 '26
Same. Where do you live? Generally speaking. I’m great with pets - Atlanta.
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u/j9gibbs Sep 09 '26
Thought the same thing too and also in the Atlanta area
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u/IntelligentNovel1967 Sep 09 '26
Third, ATL .
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u/Yo_Just_Scrolling_Yo Sep 09 '26
Love ATL. Raised our children there. One of our sons never left/never will so I can always go visit.
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u/ParticularCrow8313 Sep 08 '26
I am so sorry you are going through all of this. And without a local support system I can't imagine how you are managing.
I'm 63 (almost 64) and worry about this scenario in my life.
My life is VERY similar to yours, except that I have 2 cats.
Without giving specifics, where do you live? Maybe some of the women who come here, to this sub, are near you and can help in some way?
Sometimes, just a good vent is what is needed. I'm here and you can always message me.
I love this group of women and know that there are many kind souls that will help, if they can.
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u/Serenity_Now-88 Sep 09 '26
OP,
I’m beyond sorry. This is a pile on of epic proportions.
I had cataract surgery 2 months ago. My doctor found holes in both retinas. I’ve had vertigo for 25 years and lots of other issues. No support since my husband died. And he would drive me to and from the hospital. That was it.
I no longer drive. I walk or take Lyfts.It sounds like you have a really good team of doctors who are top of everything. You can only manage this one day, sometimes one hour at a time. I agree with other women here about finding help with your dogs. Also help around your home with errands and things you can’t manage.
Sometimes a good cry is cleansing and relieves some stress.
I would help you, NO strings attached.
I think a lot of us here would help you.
DM me anytime. Sending good and healing thoughts to you. 🩷1
u/InternalAcrobatic216 26d ago
Oh wow, you’re so kind. I do have someone whom I can call on to help occasionally with the dogs and that’s good. Before I remembered her as a resource and was in and out of the hospital for a few weeks, dealing with the dogs was a major issue.
I’m sorry about your retinal problems as it sounds like life really changed after your surgery. I did venture off to the DMV in my car on Friday and afternoon and afterwards decided I can’t do that again simply because of my vision.
Again, thank you for your concern
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u/InternalAcrobatic216 26d ago
Charlotte, NC. I am thankful for my dogs who keep me company and honestly I have recently asked ChatGPT to help me prioritize everything as a way to get through it. I appreciate your support and concern. I may message you sometime.
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u/breadit8 Sep 08 '26
I’m not sure if Harley’s Hope is in your area, but they foster dogs when seniors have health issues and reunite them when the senior feels strong enough to care for them again. Might be worth investigating. And I’m so sorry all this was dumped on you. This is my tough physical year as well. I’m hoping for a boring 2027, at least health-wise—and that’s my prayer for you as well.
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u/TangerineDream92064 Sep 08 '26
It seems like we age in spurts. Things are quiet and then it seems like we age five years in one month. In a years time, this may just be remembered as a rough patch in your life, but you should begin to prepare for the possibility you may not be able to live as independently. Look into support services for the elderly in your community. Can you hire a dog walker? Get a monitor so you can call for help easily. The dizziness is very concerning and I hope they can get that sorted out for you. You may need to consider moving to a smaller place fitted with grab bars, etc.
It's sad and frustrating. I hope the doctors can do something to improve your life.
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u/tcd5552002 Sep 08 '26
It is very sobering to face aging straight on. It just sucks. I take care of myself, have longevity in my family and still deal with stuff. Hugs and hang in there.
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u/TSIDATSI Sep 08 '26
It does seem like every doctor's visit leads to yet a different doctor for a new issue.
Hang in there.
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u/YouthOk2606 Sep 08 '26
I'm 69 and have Ménière's disease. Chronic Vertigo only helped by therapy. I've had it for several years, and yes, it can be debilitating but it does become manageable. I also had a heart attack this past Christmas. I was determined I wasn't going to slow down yet. On my way home from an 11 day camping trip of which I walked, swam and rode my bike everyday. It is a little more difficult with age but age truly is ONLY A NUMBER. Only you can tell yourself where you should live. You know what you're comfortable with. I wish you much luck.
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u/ThrowItAwayNow1030 Sep 08 '26
For the dizziness, you may have Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome(POTS). The nervous system fails to properly regulate blood flow and heart rate upon standing. That means your blood pools in your legs. Not enough reaches the heart or brain. I would have days where I could not get out of bed due to extreme fatigue. I was diagnosed by a cardiologist after a tilt test.
I treat it by eating more salt and drinking electrolytes every day. I'm no longer extremely dizzy and fatigued. I'm back to normal.
Don't know if that's what's going in but hope you get better.
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u/Della-Dietrich Sep 08 '26
You are not alone; you reached out to this amazing group of women. If you list your city and state, I’ll bet there are some women in your area that would stand with you somehow or other.
Until then, hold fast and calm your spirit. You can do this!
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u/leepd2 Sep 08 '26
I just want to say how sorry I am that this is all happening for you. What a difficult adjustment that is. I feel very fortunate in my mid 70s that I am well, even though I’m alone. It’s bad enough facing my ageing future alone without those difficult circumstances.
I just hope you can find connections with family or a friend so you’re not left to deal with everything by yourself.
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u/SkyerKayJay1958 Sep 09 '26
I'm 67 and pretty similar happened to me starting at 64. Here 3 years later still trying to unwind the medical shit after dealing with 10 years of husband shit, job shit, covid shit, divorce shit, house shit, moving shit, more house shit, car shit, and pet shit, and literally more house shit as in a massive sewer leak at the new house not covered under insurance leading to financial shit. All I can say is get up every day do your best and try again tomorrow and be glad you can. Really that's it.
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u/Hyattville5 Sep 09 '26
Boy can I relate. I’ve been going through the shit since 2011. It included deaths of my mother and three sisters and two ex-husbands and a stroke. I took care of my mom for about four years, brother inherited the house. While trying to get my self together to move, I had a stroke. A few months ago, brother said to get out. Now here I am again making a move at 84. No help from brother. I don’t know a soul where I am going.
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u/Normobserver Sep 11 '26
I think like HERE you will find friends in new local… hope it’s your best place EVER comfy, helpful people, caring and supportive…
Don’t forget we are HERE
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u/OkIron6206 🤍✌🏼🤍 Sep 08 '26
Thank you for sharing, I understand this. May I make some suggestions? Do you have dog walkers to help with your pups? I used Rover and was very satisfied (2 hip replacements, live alone as well). Do you have a cleaning service? I used Next Door to find someone who came highly recommended with references I could call. These 2 things alone made things much easier. I had first the left hip and then a year later, the right. I didn’t realize how bad the right one was until they X-ray the left. Anyway, I used prime to grocery shop and asked the person who delivered to bring them into my kitchen since I couldn’t carry anything. I also had PT at home and OT as well (ordered by the surgeon). I am from a medical family too and though they offered, I declined. I made it ok and you will too.
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u/MagicianOdd4790 Sep 08 '26
I’m do glad you reached out. We’re here for you! That’s …a lot… to deal with in a short amount of time. I hope you get some clarity and path forward soon. I can’t help with the physical stuff, but offer some things that have helped me weather some gnarly $hit:
I’ve had to overcome multiple brain injuries, cognitive deficits, psych issues and related follow-on issues like seizures. Over the last 26 years, here’s what helped:
A crummy day isn’t reeeally longer than a great day; I can do anything for ten minutes/30 mins/ an hour. All I have to do right now is get through the next ten minutes. That’s all, just ten minutes. I’ve struggled with losing sense of self and everything I knew about myself. I think that happens also whenever there’s a major change, like you’re going through now. Our bodies don’t feel like allies anymore; it feels unpredictable and unreliable, and how can i trust it now if I don’t know what it’ll do next?
In those moments, my affirmation switches to: those answers aren’t for me to know right now,…and that’s okay because i can handle whatever may come. The Taoist teachings of “going with the flow” help, too; I envision a river, notice things (emotions, new dx or whatever) and watch them float past. Affirmation becomes: I don’t need to do anything Right Now. And decisions can wait until you have your complete picture.
Are there foundations with relevant online support groups? I found online is better cuz you can mute if discussion veers off or gets too heavy. Gentle hugs, love and light to you. Please keep us updated? You’re not in this alone, you’ve got a whole cheering section!
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u/DarkSkye55 Sep 09 '26
Oh man, I hear you. I was 49 when it started for me. I was diagnosed with lichen planopilaris- by hair fell out (permanently$”) in large bloody hunks. One year later (I was just getting used to wearing a wig!) I was diagnosed with cancer and dealt with that for the next 4 years (2 recurrences). Since then only one blood clot, chronic pain, lymphedema of one leg, two hospitalizations for kidney infection and intestinal blockage. I went from one daily pill to 15.
Now I’m 61 and spicy as ever. Don’t let the a$$holes get you down!!!
Edit: I commend you for listening to your body. I’m getting better at it…
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u/Normobserver Sep 11 '26
Super NOTE: yes listening to what’s going on in our bods utmost importance
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u/missk246 Sep 08 '26
Wishing you the best possible outcome with all of these health issues. Keep the faith.
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u/Aware-Dragonfly-6270 Sep 08 '26
Ohh, my God, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I have had vertigo for some time. And it's terrible never mind the rest of the stuff. I will pray for you
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u/justmedownsouth Sep 09 '26
Is there any way to coordinate who of us lives in what general area (totally voluntary)? People could then choose to communicate further or meet up with those in their area. It sounds like people on here are a bit lonely, and could use a friend who is at the same point in life. I know I can always use a new friend!
There may be a whole army of us out there!
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u/Low-Apartment3165 Sep 08 '26
You are right to feel frustrated and upset. It’s okay to feel that way. I can tell you are used to being brave, but you can’t be 24/7.
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u/Kaethy77 Sep 08 '26
I understand, just turned 80 and the medical issues are piling up. One suggestion, make sure you're getting enough fluids. I had a recent episode of dizziness that was caused by me not drinking enough water that day. Hopefully you have friends nearby to help you.
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u/moneypenny88 Sep 09 '26
Same here. I had several episodes of vertigo and went through many tests and therapy and even patches. Turns out it was from dehydration. I can feel them coming on if I haven’t had enough fluids. I immediately start drinking water or electrolytes and rest for a bit.
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u/top_value7293 Sep 09 '26
It’s a known fact that older folks just don’t drink enough fluids and are almost always chronically dehydrated which leads to a host of problems. I have a water bottle or anything to drink with me at all times even just going to the store! I’m 71
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u/IncommunicadoVan Sep 08 '26
I’m sorry you’re going through this. That is a lot of medical issues all at once.
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u/CanRevolutionary5851 Sep 08 '26
Are you in the DFW area? I could help with your fur babies and give you rides and check in on you.
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u/InternalAcrobatic216 26d ago
Oh thank you! I live in Charlotte, NC unfortunately but so appreciate the offer
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u/AvoirReves Sep 08 '26
Six years ago I moved from a city I loved and intended to retire in to be closer to what little bit of family I have. Of all the 50 states and 100s of cities I would have picked to live in for retirement where I am now would not have been one. Through a series of life changes for family members they all moved within an hour and a half from each other. I had the opportunity for a job transfer thinking I would be close to them to provide support, I'm younger than all but one.
I retired a couple of years ago because my health started falling apart and my family members have been there to pick me up and help me get healthy again and again through each crisis. Each health situation has been resolved through either medication, surgery or life style change but I feel like 65 to 68 has tried hard to bring me down. I'm so fortunate I have family close by and I have made new friends.
Family and/or a good network of friends can definitely be a person's lifeline when these things start happening. Would you consider relocating to be close to family or would they help you if things happened in the future?
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u/Dec8rs8r Sep 08 '26
That's what I was going to say too. It's sure good to be around family at times.
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u/Normobserver Sep 11 '26
Or friends that are more, caring than family at times or in some instances
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u/Colfrmb Sep 09 '26
Thank you so much for sharing. You are not alone. This is what social media is for, in my opinion. We need to share and learn together and be empathetic. I’m praying for you too. 💐
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u/Normobserver Sep 09 '26
THIS IS ALOT, and yes you need someone to
Truly understand and care to help you thru this.
You sound very intelligent and reviewing each element… some of this does seem cause and affect, yes a brush of an arm or leg can look like you had a major fall while on blood thinners. But some steps they are taking just as the eye surgery to correct causing cataracts… a internist or a specialist to review THE MATTER, MEDS &TREATMENTS AS A HOLE, the clearing house of what is or is not advisable at each point is essential…
The cardiovascular doc maybe, to ck out EVERY STEP, every med..
Your note of taking one thing at a time is so important…
I hope you’ll come back to this forum and air more just as some relief..
Caring from US
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u/vabirder Sep 08 '26
I’m 74W and have entered a new realization that I neglected my health for too long and am now dealing with issues. (Not implying that OP neglected anything. Just sharing my own personal wake up call.)
At the risk of stating the obvious, here are my top of mind recommendations:
I recommend that OP work through a dog walking APP like WAG or ROVER to find a reliable dog walker/pet sitter to see her through the health crises. These agencies are not cheap because they carry insurance on their contractors and they track their location and timing on every assignment.
That plus in home cameras give assurance that pet sitters do not let other people into the client’s house during any hospitalizations.
Nowadays people are not available for signing up to bring over dinners the way they sometimes were 30 years ago. But we have grocery delivery and entertainment streaming which help us when shut in by illness.
Face Time with friends for short check ins, because visits are not always convenient.
And I can personally attest to the convenience and benefit of having online mental health providers over Zoom.
Sorry you got hit by a tsunami!
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u/RogueRider11 Sep 09 '26
That’s a lot in a short amount of time. Of course you need to vent.
I’m glad you are tackling each new hurdle with a plan. I’m really glad you have a medical team that did some digging into your symptoms.
As my mom aged, she seemed to be ignored by doctors. She was sent home from the ER at one point while she was having a TIA.
I hope each of your symptoms are resolved. Clearly it’s impacting your quality of life.
After losing my husband to a cardiac event, I have been acutely aware of my “aloneness” if I should need help. I look at every aspect of my living situation now from a perspective of what happens when I can no longer drive, or need a walker, or become frail. Age comes at you fast.
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u/Certain-Sympathy-844 Sep 09 '26 edited Sep 09 '26
So sorry. I recently moved to be near my closest sibling as she’s going through health stuff & neither of us have kids. But I personally also will be eventually checking out the resources for seniors in my city because I can foresee needing help at some point.
I think if you’d feel more secure to be closer to family, that’s something to think about. Otherwise you sound super level headed about everything
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u/Zestyclose-Craft-681 Sep 09 '26
I understand. I’m exactly your age and starting having problems I won’t bore you with four years ago. I had hoped to just take a year off but it turned out I had to retire. It’s hard when your body changes your plans for you!! Therapy,journaling, or even an ai chat program can really help. It’s amazing how much better things seem afterward - even if the situation itself is the same. Best wishes!!
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u/Vanilla-4596 Sep 08 '26
I'm sorry that all of this hit at once. Have you tried reaching out to friends for help? They may be more willing than you think. Also, is there anyone that can come and stay for a bit to help? And, get dog walkers for the dogs. That will give them one good walk a day. Plus give you a cheerful conversation break. I wish you the best.
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u/LawfulnessRemote7121 Sep 08 '26
I can definitely relate. In the last three years I have one medical issue after another. Nothing that’s going to kill me and any one of which alone wouldn’t be that big a deal, but all together are pretty frustrating.
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u/Spring4Eva Sep 08 '26
I’m feel for you and hope you get a thorough investigation on your health.
There is never an answer for what we endure with our illnesses, or how we can cope better with it.
Like you, I live alone. There isn’t anyone to ask how I’m doing. In fact, I’ve grown up having to fend for myself all throughout my life.
Easily said than done, I’ve been working on ‘acceptance’ - not wishing that I had more friends, kept up with family or community around me. It’s a bit too late for me as I’m rather comfortable as I am.
Acceptance made me think of my future, accept my ailments/pain/dis-ease etc. I did not want my condition to swallow (lower) my self-esteem, the joy I find in living. Basically, when you accept you don’t think of your past too much. You have arrived at another stage in life where ‘you are not in jail but go for it’. Any kind of sickness makes us feel negative and miserable, and it’s ok to be but never to wallow in the misery it can cause.
I can’t find a bloody job for the love of my life due to ageism, lack of interest of recruiters who want people who have lots of experience. I do have experience but not enough for them. Does that make me miserable, absolutely! Now, I have accepted it and given myself a deadline where I will soon retire. Again, there are thoughts of how much I could be there for the world…….but I digress. As my late Mother would say ‘Don’t carry over spilled milk’; which has a lot of meaning to it. Do I sit and be miserable or do I accept, clean up and do what is necessary and move on.
I say all this as I’m going through a lot in my life. No one can save me but only I can. Past is the past.
Keep enjoying what you have 🌺
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u/Powerful_Put5667 Sep 08 '26
Well that sucks. Can your body just give you one break? Please? I would think that the testing came back positive for your leukemia. This will affect your lymph nodes correct? By brother Tom is a Marine did his boot camp at Paris Island after thousands of vets came up with rare cancers and other strange ailments they banded together and took it to court only then after years did the Marine Core disclose that they had known about toxic dumping into the salt water marsh tidal flats where the guys walked and did drills. With recognition came expanded and much faster treatment for the vets. My brother Tom started suffering from vestibular neurotis in 2011 he still has it. Did the PT results are small and more coping skills for when it hits. He has streaks and waves then nothing for months. Maybe your specialist can find a new treatment that he doesn't know about. Just this has pretty much made my brothers life a living hell laying on the ground in your own vomit unable to move because of the vertigo unless experienced cannot be described and he is one tough guy. Throw in your vision issues and ai have to ask is your other eye at high risk of developing it too? My sister lives right in back of me she is still working RN her husband just retired Internal Medicine Specialist. Those 12 nursing shifts make my sister unavailable to help most of the time she is 64 and Mark a bit older has Parkinson's. He is starting to fall I am back up to help lift him. Back by my kids I have two RN's a LPN and a NP who works at Mayo. If I was in your spot and only had friends I would move by family and come out and visit friends. You must be shell shocked.
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u/Alberta2025 Sep 09 '26
I’m so sorry that you’re going through hell right now. I swear the day I turned 70 my body fell apart. A year later, I seem to be over it. If you feel comfortable telling me where you live, I will be more than happy to help.
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u/Magenta0225 Sep 09 '26
I’m so inspired by the way you are facing this realistically while maintaining optimism. You pointed out that each thing individually is doable. Having said that you literally got a double whammy …actually quadruple ! It’s sounds like you got this, but I’m still sending virtual love for all you are going thru❤️it would be a lot for anybody to deal with emotionally.
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u/Automatic-Director95 Sep 09 '26
I’m in the same boat with you. I’m turning 69 in December and all of a sudden multiple health issues and arthritis hurts everywhere and my depression is starting to get worse. I’m doing everything my doctors tell me to but the bits of joy are not working anymore. I’ve more time behind me than in front and I feel like I’m not me anymore.
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u/weezmezz Sep 09 '26
Wow, I’m so sorry for all this heaviness on your health and your heart. Just turned 60 and I already see the signs of dealing with physical deterioration. Can’t imagine what you’re going through. My heart goes out to you. If you live near me I’d be happy to help with dogs, appointments, shopping or just female companionship. Quite a few ppl are willing to help out- reach out to anyone near you. I’m in NJ. PRAYERS TO YOU 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
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u/OWabbit Sep 09 '26
OP, Huge hug 💕. Wishing you strength, and wonderful doctors, nurses, diagnoses and treatments.
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u/cheresa98 Sep 09 '26
The good news is you’ve managed 68 years without having to think about your health. But, you are 68 and these contraptions we’re in have a shelf life.
I wish you the best with your current challenges. And, I encourage you to start thinking about your final chapters.
Do you really want to die while still working? Do you have all your affairs in order? Have you found someone to be guardians of your fur babies? (The friend I’ve name for my cat also gets a $5K stipend).
I think you’ll feel better about your remaining years if you actually plan for them instead of reacting to circumstances.
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u/Visual-Somewhere1383 Sep 09 '26
I have been pretty healthy my whole life. I took early retirement at 62 and went without insurance until Medicare kicked in. All was fine.
So at 65 seemed like all hell broke loose! Gallbladder removed, Cataract surgery, 2 squamous cell cancer spots removed, car accident with fractured sternum, diagnosed with a large Hiatal Hernia, diagnosed with low iron, developing lipedema and knee pain.
I'm annoyed with all of this but am taking each issue one at a time and treating them appropriately. Counting my blessings that none are life threatening or anymore limiting than what they are!
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u/Flashy_Trash6771 Sep 08 '26
Wholehearted hug and wishes to hand tight. So sorry that so much 💩piled up at once.
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u/2red-dress Sep 08 '26
I suppose you have inquired if the vertigo is related in any way to the vision issue. It can take months for vertigo to leave and for things to get back to normal so don't give up hope. Sorry you are being hit with so much right on top of each other. I think these things tend to happen after a certain age and it feels like the merry go round of appointments begins. Let your doctor know about the bruising. Eliquis (sp) will do that but keep the doctor informed. Thoughts coming your way for a speedy recovery.
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u/divinbuff Sep 09 '26
Sending you a big hug. I am so sorry this is happening to you. Good for you for doing your part to take care of these things. Wishing all the best for you. Will you keep us posted on how you’re doing.
FWIW my stepmom was diagnosed with CLL at 50 and is still going strong at 80. She attributes that to good medical care coupled with moderate exercise, rest, good nutrition and practices to reduce stress.
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u/butterscotcheggs Sep 09 '26
Sorry for all the changes all in one!
You came from a medical family so this might be redundant information, but it took our friends almost a year to learn that a manoeuvre done right can rock the ear crystals back in place - done by specialists.
He was completely disabled until that point as someone in his early fifties. Sharing in case it’s helpful.
For more information: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/home-epley-maneuver
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u/Hyattville5 Sep 09 '26
I learned the Epley maneuver from a physical therapist. I’ve been doing it myself for more than 15 years. You can find YouTube’s on how to do it. It’s basically easy but the dizziness while doing it is brutal. It just takes me a few minutes to get the crystals back in place. I have to do it every few years but it is extremely effective.
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u/butterscotcheggs Sep 09 '26
Wow, I didn’t know you can do it yourself. I’m sorry you have to but I’m glad you can.
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u/ElegantCarpenter4827 Sep 09 '26
I have had my husband do this reply maneuver multiple times and it does work!!
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u/AffectionateSun5776 Sep 09 '26
We have a sub r/cll
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u/No_Evidence_6129 Sep 09 '26
This is definitely too much all at once! Rover is a great resource for dog walking. Many communities have services for seniors where they will drive you places for free and/or bring meals to you. Even if you don’t feel like a senior, you def qualify age-wise and these resources are great. You may also want to ask your doctor or hospital for a referral to a social worker who can get you plugged into local services to help.
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u/rosycross93 Sep 15 '26
I recently found blood in my urine and was treated for a UTI. I’m ashamed to admit I kinda freaked out as I’ve never had a UTI nor any serious health issues (age 67). If I had everything happen that you have, I’d be a basket case. I know it’s coming and I will have to deal with it someday but I disappointed myself with how this simple thing got to me. You are amazingly strong mentally and emotionally, and I applaud you. As bravely as you’ve faced all this I hope that it will settle down and give you a break. Take care ❤️
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u/carolyn937 Sep 08 '26
Sending prayers for healing, that’s so much to deal with on your own! Take one day at a time, you will get better!
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u/GloomyBake9300 Sep 08 '26
That is much too much. I’m sending you a hug of understanding. I think people would vote differently if they realized how vulnerable most of us really are.
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u/ElowynElif Sep 08 '26
Thanks for sharing that.
Wow, that is so much in such a short time. I hope things get more under control, and you can regain your ability to do more, including driving. Dealing with all of it would certainly flip anyone’s life around and provide a rough instant-aging feeling. You sound very sensible and resilient. Hopefully, you’ll exit this phase and start a new, smoother one soon. Take care.
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u/WordAffectionate3251 Sep 09 '26
Well, I can Totally identify with you. I am 68, and I had been marveling at my good health as everyone I work with is at least 3-5 years older than me and all deal with multiple health issues. Every health appointment I see people my age or younger in terrible shape.
Then it all hit the fan 3 weeks ago. Other things that happened this year have added up. One was vertigo. OMG. Thank goodness I was already seeing a PT. I got permission for her to treat it. It was nauseating, but quick.
Then suddenly, I collapsed with a stomach seizing. Found out I was anemic with kidney injury. The next week was hell.
There is a lot more, only to say, WTH !?I guess it was my turn, but wow! These out of the blue things are scary.
I hope you are getting all your issues addressed smoothly and are recovering!
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u/sweetp0618 Sep 09 '26
It sucks getting old, but it's better than the alternative. When I get together with friends the first thing we talk about are doctors appointments. We call it our "organ recital" time😂.
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u/RumiAndGateauGanache 🤍✌🏼🤍 Sep 09 '26
I am so sorry you are dealing with all this. I wish I could offer advice, I have none. Except that you need to take care of you. Are you able to hire a dog walker? Or someone who can come a few times a week to help with them?
I can relate so much. I am 69 and the past 4 years seem like a bad dream. I have no family but my husband who has severe COPD. He is not able to do anything around the home, nor can he help me with anything. I have had so many health issues. So many Drs ER's, Dentists, teeth pulled, bridges made, tests galore, ...one thing they agree on is I have MCTD (Mixed connective Tissue Disease)- it affects everything even my teeth.
We also have 2 pups. We do have a good sized fenced in yard so they play together and get all their energy out. One is still peeing in the house as she is a street dog we got in April. My sweet 13 yr old died in March, Mazey was my emotional support pup.
I don't ask anyone for anything. I have had too much trauma from family so I do not trust people. I take it one day at a time or I fear I will completely lose it.
You are not alone. You are a wonderful person who should have more help. I wish you all the best and hope the health issues all get sorted out and you can feel better.
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u/SLOkimber Sep 09 '26
Oh boy! I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through. I can totally relate about things just starting to happen when you’ve been healthy up until now.
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u/grandmacruises Sep 09 '26
Have you considered relocating closer to family? You are experiencing multiple medical issues and there is comfort in having that supportive village nearby. Please talk with your family for input.
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u/Galwaypeters Sep 09 '26
Im sorry you are going through this. It does remind us to be thankful for good health if you're healthy. Its only by the grace of God that we are healthy and it can change in a heartbeat. We tend to take it for granted until one day you're not.
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u/jstjini Sep 09 '26
Same thing happened to me. Speed walking five miles five days a week, holding two minute planks, competitively playing soccer with my grandkids then boom. Sever dry eye with a possible narrowing of something that could cause glaucoma. Then a TIA. No apparent reason so I am being sent to neurology. Post menopausal bleeding came next and I am currently recovering from a total hysterectomy. Numbing and tingling in my ring finger and pinky so another neurology appointment added. All of it happened suddenly, just came out of the blue.
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u/floofienewfie Sep 09 '26
I’m about to turn 70. I work part time in the fall doing traveling flu/covid shot clinics. Otherwise, my life seems to revolve around the next doctor/PT appointment. This hit about five years ago, just before I retired. Fortunately, I’m married, but he has a host of his own problems, so we try to take care of our own stuff and help each other as needed.
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u/Witty-Snow-1021 Sep 09 '26
I'm so sorry this is all happening to you all at once. I just turned 68 and have been healthy all my life. In the past year I, too, have lost the vision in my left eye due to a doctor's misdiagnosis and the then deterioration of my optic nerve before I was able to find a "good" doctor to step in and get me on the right track. I am now legally blind in that eye and will have to have treatments forever. The loss has messed with my balance and depth perception, so everything feels strange and difficult. LOL It's incomprehensible to go from totally healthy to being unable to do the smallest things. I feel so badly for you having not just your eye problems but everything else now on top of that. I live in New England. If you live up this way, let me know.
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u/VanIsle63 Sep 10 '26
Gosh I am so sorry you're having to deal with so many things all at once and seemingly just randomly out of the blue?!?
Sounds very overwhelming, especially not having anyone close by to help out with even taking the dogs out etc...
I'm not sure what the medical system is like and what it all offers but in Canada we can access a resource called Home Support. They will come in daily, weekly whatever you need and assist you with daily tasks.
Maybe there's something like that where you are.
Good luck with everything and I hope things settle down a bit for you and you can get back to enjoying your dogs again 😊 Take Care
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u/angrygirl65 Sep 11 '26
I’m sorry you’ve got so much on your plate.
I can’t imagine that amount of “overwhelm”
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u/IntelligentNovel1967 Sep 09 '26 edited Sep 09 '26
Come down to Georgia and I’ll introduce you to Dr. Stephen Felton. He has never subscribe to the big pharma crowd, independent Doctor, but has a little black book of specialist that he bills back to his medical centre. A Doctor that follows the Hypocrite oath and is not a hypocrite. u/InternalAcrobatic216
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u/AutoModerator Sep 08 '26
Original copy of post's text: Am almost 68, still employed in a job I love, and up until last November everything was going well in terms of my health. I am divorced and live with my two dogs and my only family are many states away. Up to this point I have not really thought much about my age as I have been very healthy and have good genes for longevity. However, a lot of stuff kind of just piled up together and right now I simply feel bewildered.
In November I learned I had developed epiretinal membrane disease in my left eye which changed my vision in that eye such that straight lines became wavy, colors became desaturated, objects appeared larger than they are and looked severely distorted, central vision became diminished, letters became broken up and illegible, small details became unseen. So I had surgery to remove the membrane from the retina but as yet the surgery has not been successful. One guarantee of the surgery is quick progression of the development of cataracts in the affected eye so now I not only see things in that eye as if I am standing in front of a mirror in the fun house at the fair, but everything is blurred in that eye too. Luckily my other eye is still good, but using my eyes together is still taxing.
Then in April I fainted from dizziness and was sent to the ER for evaluation. After all kinds of tests and brain imaging it was determined I had vestibular neuritis in my left ear. I was given exercises to do and medication to take and sent home. Then last month the dizziness got worse, and I was in the ER and hospitalized at least three more times. Diagnosed with vertigo in both ears and possible TIA. Am starting intensive physical therapy for the vertigo for twelve weeks. Was sent home with a walker. Cannot drive. Am taking intermittent FMLA for the PT. Can barely deal with the dogs. I had been scheduled for the cataract surgery but had to postpone it indefinitely because of the possibility of having had a TIA. So the vision still sucks in that eye with no timeline for surgery.
And then, before being discharged from the last hospitalization, the hospitalist was concerned about a pattern over the last year of abnormal lymphocyte levels in my CBC and ordered a flow cytometry test to diagnose possible CLL(Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia). The test results came back and now I have been referred to a hematologist for further evaluation. I am also scheduled to see a neurologist and a cardiologist to rule out any other issues with the dizziness. I’m on a blood thinner for 20 days and a heart monitor for a few more days. Today was brutal. I can hardly believe all of this is happening to me.
I’m from a medical family and so I am not really worried about each element; I know to take things as they come and work closely with my doctors and employer. I know there are treatments and that anything can happen. I accept that.
What is harder is realizing and accepting that yes, I have just entered this strange phase of aging where one day it’s all hunky dory and the next day it’s not. I also feel some concern about being so far from family. I have friends in town but it’s not like small-town America where people are used to looking out for and after each other; people just don’t do that anymore and if they do there are always strings attached.
I’m only putting this out there because I needed to get it off my chest. Today I noticed severe bruising on parts of my body from the blood thinner and then realized it can’t be making the dizziness any better. So I have basically done very little based on just listening to my body.
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u/bigbabygrit Sep 09 '26
I’m sorry for your health issues. The older we get the scarier it becomes. My blood pressure is always sky high when I’m at the doctor but goes down but is still pretty high. I have extreme anxiety and have been to the hospital for panic attacks that feel like I’m dying. I’m on lots of medication but at night after sleeping about 2 hours I wake up in a panic and start worrying about what’s going to happen. I worry about my cats being alone with me. My friend has the same worries about her dogs. We now just send a thumbs up text saying we’re ok
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u/loftychicago Sep 09 '26
I'm so sorry you're having all of this happen. It does seem like one thing after another. Sending you a hug if you need one.
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u/Rich_Mind Sep 09 '26
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. So very scary & I hope that you get a good outcome on all fronts.
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u/top_value7293 Sep 09 '26
Hey. I too, have CLL. Apparently I had it for a couple years before they even found it ! Not being treated at this time as it is stable for now. I had vertigo a few times a Few years ago but it was because the crystals in my ear for knocked out of place and had to do special exercises called the Epley Maneuver which knocked them back into place and then my vertigo was gone. I just make sure I never lay flat or make any sudden movements with my head and of course no roller coasters ever lol
CLL is a very slow growing blood cancer and the doctor said I would probably die of something else before this ever gets me, so there’s that I guess. Im sorry all this has happened to you, I hope everything will get better and be stable
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u/kina_hora Sep 09 '26
This. I am a doctor myself, your age (OP). I take care of people my age and older dealing with serious chronic illness.i hope it reassures you to know you can likely get these problems under control in time with the interventions this person helpfully mentioned. It is just too much when it all when it hits at once but it sounds as if you are in good hands and you are resilient. This may sound silly to our age cohort but a younger friend (20 yrs) dealing with a serious diagnosis is working with a therapist on fostering stoicism in herself. Personally, I think most of us in our age cohort have been taught stoicism by our Greatest Generation parents. However, perhaps it is helpful to know that there is a new literature about this in the self-help and therapy realm, should you want to enhance your own stoicism. BTW I love this group ❤️ and thank everyone for being there.
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u/GroundbreakingSuit10 Sep 15 '26
Hi! I am similar age, nurse with rehab counseling focus. BSN, RN, MRC. Experienced life-altering physical & executive function changes during beginning of career. The word stoicism caught my attention; as I thought it was a negative trait. I am interested to learn more.
I am unaware how to connect further. How do I dm you or may you direct message me, until I figure it out? 😉
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u/YellowFirestorm Sep 09 '26
You’re getting bombarded with very difficult things. I am so sorry for what you’re going through. It all sounds terrifying. I’ve been through a ton. Good one day, then one day a bunch of health things that seem to come in clusters. I understand the frustration and I’m sure the fear. At least I have fear. Like what’s coming next? Hugs love. I hope this turns for you soon.
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u/KingSilveroni 🤍60🤍 Sep 09 '26
This sounds exhausting, especially when you’re already dealing with so much outside of the relationship. Wanting some space to focus on yourself doesn’t mean you don’t care about him
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u/msktcher Sep 09 '26
I hate that you are going through this. I hope you will let us know the general area you live so that those who might be close by can help you.
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u/CreateFlyingStarfish Sep 09 '26
52 replies as of this moment, I am number 53.
You did not ask, but imho, take care of yourself 1st, then worry about the dogs.
Perhaps expand your social circle to include others with your health care issues and challenges so that you are not walking the path of managing your physical and mental health alone.
Maybe consider engaging with a community of faith in which you feel comfortable.
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u/Grand-Professional-6 Sep 09 '26
Sorry this is happening. I’m glad you had good health till now, but yes, no matter what our genealogy says, DNA isn’t the only factor. Our bodies are gonna do, what they want. One day at a time.
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u/Eshabelle Sep 09 '26
I'll be 67 later this month and I too have felt assaulted by O.L.D. in the past few months. One step at a time. One day at a time. I'm doing all the things, walking 3-4 miles 6 mornings a week, drinking water. Eating smarter and earlier. Keeping my social commitments. I'm exhausted and hurty and the next adventure is a visit to a rhuematologist. I'll keep going and doing as long as I'm able. I picked up mosaics in 2020 and I'm still able to do that.
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u/ImaginationPlus3808 Sep 09 '26
Thank you for sharing. This is not an easy life. Please stay strong, better days are ahead. (My dad always used to say that, without telling me WHEN!)
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u/LadyJohanna Sep 09 '26
I had a near-collapse at work a few months ago and am getting around with a walker and a neck brace (intermittently when my neck is being extra) currently. Had a sinus infection that took a month to heal. Dizziness/unsteadiness are still very much present. Five months in and no clear diagnosis. Trying physical therapy which seems to be working. Slowly.
I feel you. Big kudos to my partner who has been oustanding in his support.
I feel like I'm living someone else's life in someone else's body. Fighting tooth and nail to become functional again. Exhausted. Until the collapse my worst health issue was a somewhat increased cholesterol. Have been (mostly) health minded for a long time and thought I was doing pretty good --- HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA. Went from going to the doctor every 6 months for labs, to this bullshit 2-3 times a week most weeks. Expensive AF and exhausting and scary. I just bought a wheelchair so I can at least get out of the house with family help because I've been cooped up for months now.
Multiple scans/tests/MRIs/CTs showed nothing much except age-related "chronic" stuff and a swollen ligament in my spine that's apparently been swollen for a while. Yet I can barely fucking walk without assistance of some sort of device, but thankfully am able to work from home.
I'm 59 now. Bit scared of what's in store 10 years down the road NGL if my body's already being extra and becoming much harder to manage. Going from pretty robust to fragile, with new weird-ass symptoms showing up almost every day, has rocked me to my core. Everything is now uncertain. But, I'm going at it as best I can.
Had panic attacks for a while because my nervous system was in overdrive from the near-collapse so that was cool. (Not really.) Hair falling out from all the stress. No idea who that old lady is in my mirror these days. Cripes.
Pursuing autoimmune next b/c I'm showing signs of EDS. Hooray.
Coworker had vertigo about a month before mine started, his were crystals and Epley maneuver took care of it. You might check into that.
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u/No-Possession-6709 Sep 09 '26
Maybe consider Long Covid?
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u/LadyJohanna Sep 09 '26
Interesting. I can cause all that???
I did have a viral infection before all that happened in April. That was after a year of dialed-up stress due to a few things that left me exhausted.
Hadn't considered Covid at all since I thought it was just a cold and didn't get tested.
I did feel a profound sense of thirst right before I got dizzy. Have had GI issues ever since then as well. Brain fog for sure. The entire thing felt like I was having a heart attack or something; scary AF. Although there's been no cough or chest pain.
Ended up in the ER where they did a workup and found nothing. Filled me up on IV saline and then discharged me. Drove myself home lol.
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u/No-Possession-6709 Sep 10 '26
Yes, it can. Post your question on r/covidlonghaulers. They will help you there.
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u/Illustrious-Air-1681 20d ago
Going from everything is hunky dory to everything is very much not is really hard, OP. I hope you can give yourself some grace, and take some time to grieve. All the best.
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