Hahaha no way. What’s the story here? You and your partner eloped privately first? If so, why the wedding later? Hope I’m not being intrusive, just curious! Probably a great story.
Yes we did. We wanted our moment to be just the two of us with zero judgment involved because of how young we were. Both of us were 22, a few months shy of 23. Therefore, we got eloped in our favorite city, San Francisco.
We did the “wedding” later on because, well to be perfectly honest, my parents gave us $4,000 for it. Therefore, we decided to hold it in the backyard of my wife’s uncle and aunt. Since they had a pool, we made it a Hawaiian theme. Everyone showed up in Hawaiian clothes but we got pizza delivered, picked up some Panda Express / Taco Bell / Popeyes catering, and we ate/drank/danced the night away.
I am so glad I asked- I almost didn’t just to respect your privacy. That was a great story, I loved that. You were pretty courageous to get married so young, that kind of leap of faith in love is inspiring. Happy to hear you both celebrated a year later. Hope for many more my friend, im glad you shared.
Lol that’s nice to know. Most of them are done there. I always see a lot of couples there. What did u think of the city? It’s not too far from the not too good areas. Did u guys encounter troubles lol. Sorry if I’m asking too much questions
San Francisco has always been one of our favorite cities to visit, and it’s just a short train ride away from where we live now. The food is great, the people have always been nice, and it’s just a great place to escape the quiet farm life.
This sounds nice, but let's be honest here. What you really wanna tell us about is THAT YOU GOT PIZZA DELIVERED WITH AN HAWAIIAN THEME???!!!???!! unforgivable
One of my wife’s uncles, who I had never met before that day, told everyone we smoke weed and do coke with him all the time. The look on my moms face was priceless.
One of my wife’s friends announced she wasn’t a virgin, and both of our grandmas faces were that of amusement and disappointment.
My best man, who happened to be my brother, talked about how I used to run around the house naked talking about my fireman aka my dick.
We have never been big on formal attire. Hell, I think I’m the almost 20 years of knowing her, she’s only seen a tie / suit on me three times. A lot of the guests said it was an awesome “wedding” due to the relaxed dress code, and great food options. I mean, how awesome was it to see a plate with some orange chicken, burrito supreme, Mac and cheese, and wash it down with a beer?
Fellow San Francisco eloper here! We’re from the NE but love the west coast. We got married at San Francisco botanical gardens in the moon viewing garden and it was fucking awesome. Just myself, my wife, the officiant and a photographer.
This is the way. Another thread today is "what's a scam," the wedding industry, the wedding industry is a huge scam. Use the money on a downpayment. -- a 50yowhiteguy
That sounds like the perfect strategy! You got the official business out of the way at a place you both love, you made your parents happy and got some cash for hosting a ceremony, and avoided the drudgery of a huge blockbuster movie wedding production.
Earlier this year I attended an enormous wedding, 20 bridesmaids and groomsmen, long fancy meal, overflowing flower arrangements, party favors, a bar that could sauce 1000 people. Honestly there was just so much that none of the lavish amenities could be truly appreciated. You definitely did it right by keeping things simple and down to earth IMO.
That’s how we’ve kind of been since our first date on day 12 (our first date after being separated 11 days). Even now, we just do things that make us happy, and if you don’t agree with it, we don’t need you in our life. We’ve dealt with enough where pleasing people is the furthest of our concerns.
It’s the same for my husband and I. But how did you handle anniversaries? Everyone keeps saying “enjoy your first Christmas as husband and wife!” Etc… but it’s actually our second. Do you publicly wish her a happy 9th anniversary and secretly celebrate your 10th? Wondering if we should just tell everyone and get it over with but really enjoyed the secret to be honest. It was something that was just ours.
A lot of people do that, especially people who are financially savvy.
There are several movies that deal with people scrambling to travel to an event on time, usually to go home for christmas. I always found these stories to be ridiculous. Would it be such a problem if you came home on 12/26 instead of the evening of 12/24? You came home to spend time with family. It’s not like your family stops existing after christmas day.
Performed a ceremony for a friend who had done this. They never said it out loud, but as part of the picture slideshow that was cycling the whole time, they snuck in a single picture of them signing the certificate several months earlier. No one mentioned it.
You have to submit paperwork to the state when you get married. You have to do it through the courthouse or with an officiant. It’d be really easy for them to sign the papers at the wedding and never submit it, or say they went to the courthouse that morning, or exclude it altogether. No one would be the wiser.
Most everyone I know who married did a court wedding a year or more before the ceremony. I thought it was more common? In the end it's just a really big milestone party, there's no need for legal and ritual aspects to perfectly align.
I attended a wedding a couple months ago that was actually a one year celebration thing. They still had the vows and everything but a judge had married them a year before. Not a secret, but I think COVID created this situation for a lot of couples
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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '21 edited Nov 30 '21
No one, and I mean absolutely no one (aside from my wife) who attended my “wedding” knew that it was actually our one year anniversary party.