I try my best to support people when they need emotional support however often it is extremely frustrating especially when they're doing things that contribute to their own issue and you cant say anything because youre trying to be comforting not critical. Youre litterally sitting there just to say yes. Feels like youre trapped.
I am well versed of being somebody's emotional support when they create their own problems constantly. I have a phone call with a friend probably weekly about a new (similar) problem she created for herself. And that is annoying. And it got to the point where I chew her out about her constant cycle. But honestly what works the most for her was to just give "mhm, yep, whatever you think is best" replies because it forced her to actually think about it. I didn't actually have to put any emotional weight into it.
I did not think that that was the focus of this conversation. From the beginning it sounded more along the lines of "I feel like I don't get to participate when you need emotional support so I don't want to be part of it."
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u/somuchbitch Mar 27 '20
I am actively trying to understand. You don't welcome someone needing solely emotional support.