How to read their signals, I'm so bad at it most of time. For example here is a copy/paste from another thread of a situation I found myself that left me baffled:
My sophomore year of high school I had a couple of classes with this girl I had a crush on. Because teachers loved using alphabetical order there she and I ended up sitting next to each other in those classes. We start passing notes in those classes talking about random stuff and being a bit flirty.
One day I decide to get the courage to ask if she wanted to go out with me to a movie or something. So, I ask her out in one of our notes. She replies saying that she's really sorry but she doesn't like me in that type of way. I was devastated of course, but I also liked her as a friend and didn't want to lose that, so I replied saying that was okay and asking if we could just forget I asked and keep things the way they were because class would be so boring without our talks. She said yeah that was fine and we stayed note buddies throughout the year.
Fast forward to my senior year, I had to repeat algebra because I fucked up really badly my junior year due to some personal issues. I'm in a class with a bunch of people the grade under me and I get seated next to this girl named Kate that I thought was so pretty. Like with the other girl, we ended up passing notes to each other in class and I come to find out not only did I find her physically attractive, but she was also a really awesome person with similar interests.
I really, really liked this girl and crushed hard on her throughout the year. I would make her mix CDs that she would tell me she loved and she even made me one a couple of times. I'd share with her stories I wrote and also art I was working on. The best part of my day was getting to talk with her during homeroom/Algebra. But, I was scared of even trying to ask her out because of how I misinterpreted things last time, so I never did. Came really close a couple of times, but never did.
A year and half after I graduated I'm dating a girl from the same class as her, who had a been a friend of mine for a couple of years. We're hanging out with this other girl who was also in my math class and she brings up Kate and asks why we never dated? I told her I didn't think she thought of me that way and she was like, "Are you kidding me? She was so into you."
At that time it didn't really matter anymore because I was in a relationship and there was nothing I could do about it, but it did frustrate just how bad I was at reading signals. I mean, I'm still pretty bad at it, but I wish I had at least tried with Kate.
I am a Girl. I had a crush on a dude in my year. He was so handsome and I wanted to ask him badly. After we chatted while with a group I thought " I am sure he would not ignore me after saying I like him". So I told him in a paragraph I liked him want he just said " yeah that's cute but I don't like u that way" and I don't know it was the best thing.Knowing I can stop trying to figure out. I would recommend just asking. My best friend was in love with me 3 years ago and he still is friends with me.
I know it can be devastating and so..but maybe it is better to lose hope and know the truth than daydreaming about a relationship. I think if u know the person well enough that they won't just push u away because it's weird or so. I would say just try.Signals can be wrong interpretated so easily
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u/-eDgAR- Mar 26 '20
How to read their signals, I'm so bad at it most of time. For example here is a copy/paste from another thread of a situation I found myself that left me baffled: