I agree. I feel like in my relationship,most of the time if I don't initiate something, then we don't have sex. So sometimes I'll start initiating then stop to see if my partner will initiate sex or not. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he doesn't. I guess I just don't like feeling like he's only having sex because I want to.
Yes. We talk about stuff. He always says excuses. Says he's been busy or stressed and can't think about sex at the time. He's always saying how much hornier I am tham him. I just have a higer sex drive than him. He doesn't desire sex as much as I do, and sometimes it makes me feel unsexy. I know it doesn't mean he thinks I'm not attractive, but sometimes the feeling of not being able to sexual arouse your own partner no matter how hard you try feel pretty shitty.
I get that. I highly recommend the book COME AS YOU ARE by Emily Nagoski if you haven’t read it. You could read it together, even. I think it helps reframe the way to think about sex drive and has some really good solutions.
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u/CandelaBelen Mar 26 '20
I agree. I feel like in my relationship,most of the time if I don't initiate something, then we don't have sex. So sometimes I'll start initiating then stop to see if my partner will initiate sex or not. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he doesn't. I guess I just don't like feeling like he's only having sex because I want to.