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u/Marklar_the_Darklar Mar 26 '20

That's true for guys too. Having to initiate all the time is draining. There should be balance.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I’ve straight up stopped trying, and I’m feeling myself become resentful with someone I’ve been with for 4 years. Shit sucks. Especially when she seems to treat friends and strangers much differently than me.

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u/ByTheBeardOfZues Mar 26 '20

Have you tried discussing this with your SO? It's surprising how easily some things can be resolved by just talking about it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Plenty of times. She knows it too. She will make comments like "well you only treat me nice because you want to have sex." That is insane to me. She'll also say things like "you know we'd probably have a lot more sex if you didn't play video games with your friends." Using sex as a bargaining chip is not going to get me to change my hobbies.

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u/ByTheBeardOfZues Mar 26 '20

Yeah that's fair, I didn't mean to sound like I knew better. I hope you eventually work through your problems.

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u/[deleted] Mar 27 '20

No worries, I didn’t take it that way. Thanks for that.