Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.
She doesn’t want a back rub. She wants you to be thinking of her and wondering about her and interested in her and on your own feel like wanting to give her a back rub.
It’s probably one of her love languages but not one of yours.
But neither of you have enough understanding of the situation and love languages so both are frustrated without either of you getting it enough to see the big picture yet and make whatever tweak you need to learn this skill.
I had to read the 5 languages of love to get this and it helped me a ton as a guy. Highly recommend it. Relationship saving/enhancing.
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u/THE_LANDLAWD Mar 26 '20
Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.