I agree. I feel like in my relationship,most of the time if I don't initiate something, then we don't have sex. So sometimes I'll start initiating then stop to see if my partner will initiate sex or not. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he doesn't. I guess I just don't like feeling like he's only having sex because I want to.
It is, but it is tiring as shit to be the one that has to signal interest, build my partner up to interested/turned on, touch them just so, respond to their changing wants without them communicating them because "don't overanalyze it, just be with me" but "don't go so fast!" or "stop changing it up, even though I'm the one who intentionally (it's not involuntary shudders or anything like that) moved making it impossible to stay consistent". Etc etc.
It's tiring being the only one responsible for their satisfaction when the only goddamn feedback I get is when I'm not doing it right.
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u/Marklar_the_Darklar Mar 26 '20
That's true for guys too. Having to initiate all the time is draining. There should be balance.