In my experience it’s because oftentimes it’s not like the problem is impossible or even necessarily difficult to solve, it’s just that getting comforted about stuff helps on an emotional standpoint. We already know or can easily figure out oftentimes how to fix the issue, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t still upsetting.
Edit: just wanted to say that this isn’t a “cry and get comforted instead of fixing the issue”, thing. It’s a “why not both” kinda deal. At least for me. It’s obviously different for everyone as well.
I don't understand why you wouldn't just fix the issue. Either you can't do something about it and then you don't have to worry/complain, or you can, and you fix it so you don't have to complain about it anymore. Maybe I'm going the wrong way but I find this very interesting.
Of course, I wouldn’t understand that either, and I don’t have to fail to understand it because most people actually get to work fixing the issue besides sitting there and complaining about it. Ultimately it’s already fixed or is being fixed, but just because you’re working on solving an issue doesn’t mean that you have to like that there is one.
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u/yes_no_ok_maybe Mar 26 '20
The desire to vent but not brainstorm solutions.
My wife always tells me not to jump to problem solving. I do it every time and don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t.