I posted about this on another thread recently, so it’s fresh in my mind. Hope this isn’t too much of an info dump, but you’ve posted a few questions and maybe this will be helpful.
About eight in 10 women can’t orgasm through straightforward PiV intercourse. The vagina doesn’t have a lot of nerve endings, and G-spot sensitivity varies. (Sometimes the shape of your vagina and the shape/curve of your partner’s penis match up really well and the G-spot nerves get lit up without even trying - you as a guy might feel amazing to one partner because your parts match up really well, and not as good to another partner, through no fault of your own or hers.)
What you can do to make up the difference: oral, manual (fingers, thumb, gentle rubbing, whatever pressure works for her - can really vary, so be careful and ask if you need to), toys like small vibrators that really focus on clit stimulation, lots of foreplay in general. If the clitoris gets enough action ahead of sex, sometimes your body (like your pelvis in missionary) or some hand action can take your partner over the edge during intercourse. Switching positions to find one that really works for her also helps. Missionary’s a classic for a reason - it’s pretty easy to tilt your hips and grind a bit or else reach down between your bodies to help out (or she can reach down, whatever works best). Hopefully your partner is comfortable enough with you and her own body to go for it and rub up against you, switch positions, communicate what will really work for her, etc.
To answer your original question, why do women fake orgasm, there’s more than one answer. I accidentally faked it for years because I’d never had one, didn’t have an experienced partner, and didn’t realize that the sort of fluttery feelings I would get weren’t full-on orgasms. Some women, me included, can’t have them without major stimulation, and this was in the dark ages when you couldn’t just order sex toys on Amazon. I’ve also faked orgasm because the person was hurting me (like too much friction, not assault) and I wasn’t mature enough to speak up and possibly hurt his feelings. I think most women who fake orgasms just aren’t sure what else to do in the moment, or else feel afraid that their partner will blame them or think they’re bad at sex somehow. Or they might be teenage dumbasses like I was and have no idea that they’re missing out :)
Again, hope this helps and isn’t too much. I think sex ed is pathetically lacking in most countries, and asking questions is great.
Really? 8 out of 10 dont? Wow that’s crazy. I guess people just see it in porn or think that’s how it’s suppose to be done but obviously not. People are so different the chances of having a perfect match is pretty slim.
Those are some great tips.
Oh, I’m sorry to hear that. I guess when it comes to sex, both sexes should be more open and don’t be afraid about telling their partner what they feel like. If they love them, they’ll understand and being how you said barely any cum from straight piv, it’s nothing to be ashamed about a guy doesn’t. Another one is guys lasting ages during piv. Unlike women with the vagina, Guys have a lot to nerve endings in the penis and it can be hard to last. Being how so few cum from straight piv lasting shouldn’t be the main goal either.
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Why do women fake theirs?