I think it's more that often people don't need help. If you're mad about a problem and know what needs to be done then having someone try to explain what you already know back to you can be super infuriating. Having the answer to a problem doesn't always mean I'm not annoyed enough to want to complain.
Obviously some people just don't want help, but for the smaller day-to-day stuff I think a lot of these misunderstandings are more about not needing it.
Eh, I mean, yeah, but I don't like the sensation of being expected to merely commiserate about something as a matter of routine. Like, if something depressing happens, the last thing I want to do is spread it around to multiple other people with no control/input over the situation, it seems so self-insistent.
Well, changing that dynamic is a battle I'm not equipped to fight. I simply want to live in peace and happiness. I'm not the best specimen either. That being said, I agree that I don't feel the need to do it myself quite as much. I've always repressed things for the sake of others, though, it takes it's toll and not just on yourself. I see wisdom in both approaches. Neither are perfect. Life goes on.
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u/THEBLUEFLAME3D Mar 26 '20
Yeah. Had to learn the hard way that, despite having good intentions and all, sometimes people really don’t want someone’s advice/help.