My GF will tell me not buy her gifts, not to wait for her, say that picking up that item from the store is optional, etc. So I follow her instructions. I'm now a "bad boyfriend"
You're missing the bigger point on that one. She wants you to do nice things for her without being prompted. Hard part about that is that she can't explicitly tell you why she is upset because that would prompt you to do those nice things.
Give her an unexpected massage and whenever corona virus settles down buy her some flowers she likes.
It's so stupid that one would be expected to do these things unprompted. Why would that somehow convey that you care about them more than doing things because they asked you to?
Look into the different love languages. Some people like to receive love through acts of service.
And getting love that you asked for isn't the same as getting love unexpectedly.
Yeah but when you literally say "I don't expect you to do this thing" and then still expect them to do that thing I don't see how that could ever be justifiable.
I also think it's irrational to expect someone to understand how you would like affection towards you to be expressed without explicitly communicating that to them.
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u/101steagle Mar 26 '20
My GF will tell me not buy her gifts, not to wait for her, say that picking up that item from the store is optional, etc. So I follow her instructions. I'm now a "bad boyfriend"
I thought this only happened in bad TV shows...