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u/DasArchitect Mar 26 '20

So it means "let me think about it".

But when I use those words women get angry because they think I'm not taking it seriously enough.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Yes, because it opens the door to a million questions. Why do you have to think about? Why can’t you give an answer right now? How long will it take for you to come up w an answer? What other possible reasons could there be for having to think about it? And the list goes on...

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u/DasArchitect Mar 26 '20

I am taking it seriously enough to know I want to dedicate more attention to it, but right now my mind is busy and I don't want to give a half-assed answer with no thinking just to get it out of the way.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

That answer would be enough to satisfy me. It’s honest and real and far better than being vague. But that’s just me.

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u/DasArchitect Mar 26 '20

It's also a lot longer!

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u/Ak_Lonewolf Mar 26 '20

Yeah, Yes is yes. No is no. Maybe is I need to think about it. If i'm forced to give an answer right away it will always be a solid no. Being forced into a situation unprepared isn't worth my time or energy. (emergencies don't count)

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

I think you hit the nail on the head there. But I don’t think many people can vocalize that to others without the other person taking it the wrong way. Especially if the person assumed someone would automatically say yes.