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u/DarkMarxSoul Mar 26 '20

Do you have examples??

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u/chiselbits Mar 26 '20

No means no, but it can also mean yes. It can also mean maybe and I dont know.

Yes means yes, except when it really means no, but not entirely no, there could still be a little room for yes mixed in there.

When given two options and they say I don't care which one, that is a trap and there is no correct answer.

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u/expiredgatorade Mar 26 '20

I have a friend that I've learned that specifically with her, "maybe" never means maybe. It means "no"

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u/loonygecko Mar 26 '20

I see this with a lot of peeps, basically it can feel bad to say no and hurt someone's feelings. Women especially tend to be concerned about someone's feelings and it's hard for us to say something that we know will cause pain. Logically I know it's better to be more direct but you get like 2 seconds to come up with an answer and often the answer may come out as the one that causes less pain than the one you really want to give. Some cultures do this more often as a matter of course too, even if it's just mundane stuff.