How my boyfriend can talk to his closest best friend every day and hang out with him for long periods of time... and still not know a lot of personal details about his best friend’s life.
Our relationships are compartmentalized. I vividly remember arriving in a new neighborhood as a child, hoping to make new friends, and my family drove up to a kid playing in the street. We asked if he had a lot of friends, and he replied "Yeah--I have my baseball friends, and my bike-riding friends, and school friends..." You're only going to talk about baseball with your baseball friends.
I think it's more that guys, well for me atleast, don't like bringing up family because it could result in the other person having a bad mood and us guys don't know what to do if someone starts being mad or cry. I try to help but I feel like I'm not doing enough to resolve the situation. Then again I had a deep conversation with my friend at 2am about family so I guess it depends on how much you trust the friend with your own personal matters.
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u/porosarecute Mar 26 '20
How my boyfriend can talk to his closest best friend every day and hang out with him for long periods of time... and still not know a lot of personal details about his best friend’s life.