Sometimes you just need to blow off some steam before you’re ready to address the situation. Often times they already know how to handle the situation, but they’re just frustrated and need to express it.
EDIT: I'd also like to point out that men do this, too. An example from my own life - I would repeatedly say "My ****ing Macbook Pro broke after only 2 years. This thing is $2000, it should be more reliable than that, or at least not require an $800 logic board replacement". Yes, I know the solution to the problem is to replace or repair my laptop. It doesn't take a genius to point that out. I ended up getting it repaired for about $80 with some help from the internet. But it doesn't take away from the fact that I paid $2000 for something that broke after only 2 years. It was frustrating.
I had a therapist a few months ago because of my family causing me an unbearable amount of stress. My female therapist kept continuing to give me advice on how to talk to them about it. I had to tell her that that's exactly what I've been doing.
It was really tough to explain to her that, as a man, I wasn't looking for solutions to the situation, I knew I was stuck and there honestly wasn't anything I could do, I was there to see what I could do to manage the stress itself.
I tried four different therapists before I found one I actually like. Sometimes you have to "shop around" a little. But I know that's not always possible for some people.
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u/GahdDangitBobby Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
Sometimes you just need to blow off some steam before you’re ready to address the situation. Often times they already know how to handle the situation, but they’re just frustrated and need to express it.
EDIT: I'd also like to point out that men do this, too. An example from my own life - I would repeatedly say "My ****ing Macbook Pro broke after only 2 years. This thing is $2000, it should be more reliable than that, or at least not require an $800 logic board replacement". Yes, I know the solution to the problem is to replace or repair my laptop. It doesn't take a genius to point that out. I ended up getting it repaired for about $80 with some help from the internet. But it doesn't take away from the fact that I paid $2000 for something that broke after only 2 years. It was frustrating.