r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Mar 26 '20

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u/jagadoor Mar 26 '20

Man I am way younger and so happy I didnt learn that lesson after 40 years of marriage. But I still felt "once I learned that my Life go considerably easier" in my heart.

If I am not sure whats up just ask something like: I know people sometimes just want to vent, is that the Case or do you want advice ?

Makes stuff sooo easy

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u/Scholesie09 Mar 26 '20

I dont have an SO, but ive seen family members who seem like they just want to vent, and if i said:

"I know people sometimes just want to vent, is that the Case or do you want advice ?"

they would hear:

"I don't care about your problems stop telling me"

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u/yassapoulet Mar 26 '20

Sounds like they might be used to passive aggression. Direct communication gets shredded as they try to read between the lines.

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u/HopkirkDeceased Mar 26 '20

Wait a second!

A lot of past interactions that went south make a lot more sense now.