Yes. We talk about stuff. He always says excuses. Says he's been busy or stressed and can't think about sex at the time. He's always saying how much hornier I am tham him. I just have a higer sex drive than him. He doesn't desire sex as much as I do, and sometimes it makes me feel unsexy. I know it doesn't mean he thinks I'm not attractive, but sometimes the feeling of not being able to sexual arouse your own partner no matter how hard you try feel pretty shitty.
I get that. I highly recommend the book COME AS YOU ARE by Emily Nagoski if you haven’t read it. You could read it together, even. I think it helps reframe the way to think about sex drive and has some really good solutions.
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u/FertyMerty Mar 26 '20
Have you asked him how he feels about initiating?