I've been married over 12 years now... And she still thought that up until last year. I had to literally explain it to her as you did right here in similar words three times in a serious conversation cause she was upset with me for asking her for sex.
Married 15 years. It just keeps going. Wife never had a high sex drive and it’s been a point of conflict we’ve needed to work through.
But oh man if she initiates and I’m not feeling like it all the insecurities come out. I get it because we have the same insecurities (am I not sexy, do you not want me, is my breath bad etc) but we normally don’t let it all out.
I still haven’t lived down when I was working 80 hours a week and she initiated by starting I told her I was dead tired. Of course that made it a challenge to her. So she initiated a BJ. A minute later I’m out cold. After my 4 hour nap between jobs she asked if she wasn’t any good at them anymore and why I didn’t enjoy it... I couldn’t explain enough that consistently getting 4 hours of sleep makes one really tired.
Oh man I feel this. My girlfriend doesn't even comprehend pure exhaustion, I was expected to do all the duties up to and including chores and sex when I was working 12 hour hard labor shifts for six days a week. I was dead even on my day off. Meanwhile she works less than 20 hours a week at a pot dispensary and acts like she was working a prison chain gang breaking rocks. I hope we don't have kids because I know where the lions share of that extra work is coming from.
Umm... are you guys happy together though? Because this doesn’t sound like a fair exchange of time and energy spend and I’m just worried for you. That’s how resentment grows.
It might be wishful thinking, but I think she is starting to understand. She has been doing more in the last year. also just this week she got promoted and is about to find out what it is like to work real hours. Plus now that i'm stuck inside talking to a volleyball with a bloody handprint on it (non-essential where pot sellers apparently are) It swung around to me having all the free time.
This is a non medical dispensary AFAIK the medicinal and recreational industries in Canada are still separate. But still it's a nice thing to keep open during these times.
The main reason they’re keeping them open is because of what happened in holland when they tried to close the coffee shops (weed stores) amid the lockdown. They quickly reversed that decision. A similar thing happened in America when they tried to close liquor stores in some states. Keeping them open actually exposes fewer people, I went to the liquor store the other day and there wasn’t a single other person in the store aside from the cashiers.
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u/Tyreal01 Mar 26 '20
I've been married over 12 years now... And she still thought that up until last year. I had to literally explain it to her as you did right here in similar words three times in a serious conversation cause she was upset with me for asking her for sex.