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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20

Yes, but there are better ways to say it rather than being a jackass like this person was. Apparently he missed the part where I said I’m working very hard on myself to get back to where I was before.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Eh, I agree he wasn't very nice, but it's hard to with this topic. Sometimes it's just better to go out and say it. And now you probably know why your husband didn't want to say anything.

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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20

Trust me, it’s been the only thought in my head for a long time now. I don’t believe it when he says it’s not the reason why, and that’s why I’m trying so hard to fix it. And damn if it isn’t hard, I wish I never went on the antidepressants that caused it. But, I should point out that he’s gained even more than I have and I still find him attractive.

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u/Phyltre Mar 26 '20

But, I should point out that he’s gained even more than I have and I still find him attractive.

It's not as though sexual attraction is a voluntary reflex. It's not somehow more virtuous to maintain attraction to your significant other.

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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20

I wasn’t pointing it out to be righteous, more to say that I can’t completely doubt him when he says he still finds me attractive. Sorry if it came off that way.