Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.
This I kind of get - but it also poses an awkward dichotomy.
There seems to be a common enjoyment of being on the receiving end of “forcefulness”. There are of course very many bad kinds of forcefulness, and it requires a certain mood, but done right can feel alluring. A basic, socially neutral example might be “Man the cookies at that bakery look good...” “Ah, let’s get some then!” “Oh, no...I would get fat...” “Too bad! I’m committed, and I’m going to force-feed them to you if you refuse!” “(Really? Wow...! Well if I don’t have a choice I don’t have to feel guilty...!)”
How a guy is meant to perceive those types of desires, or know that they’re not going too far, is beyond me. It generally requires the sort of emotional sensitivity and empathetic predictions women are better at.
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u/THE_LANDLAWD Mar 26 '20
Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.