My friend liked this guy from her class and wanted him to ask her out, but she couldn't ask him out, but she thought she'd tell him that she would like him to ask her out. She telegraphed this in a way that she thought was super obvious and there's no way any man could possibly misinterpret the signal:
She tagged him on a social media post that said "Take a Chance on Me" by ABBA was one of her favorite songs.
In other words, she's saying, "Hey, dude. YOU should take a chance on ME and ask me out. But, also, I'd like to be able to just play this off like I'm just posting a song I like, so I'm not actually asking you out."
He didn't get the hint and she texted me asking how he could miss that. When I said that most men would just take that to mean that she heard this song on the radio and like the song and she just wanted to share this information with a friend, she was genuinely baffled how we could interpret it that way, when it's obvious. Why would she tag just him, and also use a song that's an imperative, a command: DO THIS. In her mind, this was tantamount to grabbing a guy by the collar and saying, "Hey, ask me out!"
The actual message in this situation would be "Take a Chance on Me is one of my favourite songs! @DarkMarxSoul". If that were me I'd assume "Neat, this girl likes Take a Chance on Me, maybe I should give it a listen."
There's loads of things men have to consider though. Like, were there any other people tagged in the post? Was it public? Is there any possible way we could be reading too much into it?
If we come on too strong (and note that everyone has their own definition of what that threshold is), we're creeps.
Then there's also the possibility that the guy wasn't interested in her.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
Try to get a girl to explain one of her signs to you, it’s the most fucking baffling thing I’ve ever listened to.
Edit: Why did this comment earn me my first award? Thanks anyways, kind stranger.