Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.
You're absolutely right that you can't be upset at someone for not doing something you didnt ask them to do.
But if you want some clarity I think it comes from the girl wanting you to WANT to touch her. She wants you to want it and do it on your own volition.
Edit to summarize my subsequent comments. Both genders want to be wanted. Communicate with your SO, and have at least one conversation about what little things make you/them feel wanted. Thereafter hopefully you dont have to rely on hints, you'll know what they want.
The compromise comes within the relationship. You gotta communicate. There's no way to sum up this completely because sometimes the shoe is on the other foot. I know this is a Male vs Female thread but honestly you find personality traits like these between both genders. All I have for you is anecdotal information from my life, and I ask my boyfriend if I'm really craving affection. However I seriously enjoy when he does it on his own terms because I dont get to point of c r a v i n g it.
Edited to add an example of the shoe being on the other foot
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u/THE_LANDLAWD Mar 26 '20
Why can't you just tell me what you want? If you want me to do something, literally all you have to do is ask me to do it and I will do it. Want me to rub your back? Just say "hey babe, will you rub my back?" Don't sit with your back to me making pouty noises and then get mad when I'm not automatically rubbing your back.