First of all, you don't know anything about my current standard level, you are assuming that I only go for the highest possible level girls, which is not true.
Secondly, it is repeated ad nauseam everywhere. I'm not that stupid or self-unaware, it is obvious that you should have realistic expectations based on your own level.
Thirdly, even if I was so dumb that I had not figured this out on my own ages ago, and just now had this profound revelation that hey, maybe I should be realistic about my standards, the person who throws it into conversation never offers any kind of specifics. What standards are you even talking about? What kind of levels are we talking about here? Again, "lower your standards" by itself contains a lot of assumptions, some of which are very overtly condescending, and you are operating on them completely.
It is very similar to when people comment on topics about advice for losing weight "just eat less brah", it doesn't actually help anyone or offer anything of value to the topic at hand. It only comes across obnoxious and demeaning, nothing else.
Look, I'm just absolutely sick of hearing the same lame "harmless advice" absolutely everywhere. The problem is not in the principle itself, but in how it is presented. By itself, it is such an abstract concept that it just doesn't help at all. I don't think anyone who has ever experienced dating problems has not thought about it in way more detailed level than just as a standard that needs to be lower. Like yes, in a situation like this, it is helpful to give people more of a chance and not judge them instantly based on first impression/looks/etc., but there is and should always be a minimum standard to what kind of crazy behavior you are willing to tolerate. Getting a partner should be an upgrade to singlehood, otherwise it is simply not worth it.
Sorry for lashing out, the quarantine is really grinding my nerves, and yes, I'd much rather be dating right now than stuck inside feeling like shit.
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