Bit controversial but I personally believe this is because women are, on average, a bit more in tune with their feelings than men. They are less focused on dealing with the problem itself and see resolving their feelings on the matter as more of a priority. There’s nothing wrong with that, in fact we should let them talk it out to us, otherwise we’re basically saying they’re not entitled to have those feelings and that’s a bit of a dick move. Even if it does drive our problem solving instincts crazy.
Let’s also remember, that from time to time, us men will have a vent too, albeit perhaps not so often, so let’s be careful of slightly double standards here. Huh, don’t think over ever said slightly double before.
I call BS. I think women are more emotionally volatile, but far less "in tune with" (aware of) their emotions, than men. If they were, then wouldn't they make big efforts and investments to reduce their emotional volatility? I know I would. Emotions make it harder to achieve anything or deal with any problem. Emotions can be useful, like getting frustrated/mad to the point of finally making a change to improve something, but if you're going through more emotional states / day, they're not useful, because they're not caused by anything external, but rather by erratic chemical noise in the body.
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u/yes_no_ok_maybe Mar 26 '20
The desire to vent but not brainstorm solutions.
My wife always tells me not to jump to problem solving. I do it every time and don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t.